Getting a divorce but I still have me

[LisaLost]

Hey all,

remember me? been going back and forth peicing with my H then he keeps cheating- well on Monday he crossed the line-

He is sitting in jail- He snapped and beat the crap out of me. I had to be taken by ambulance to the ER and will have scars from this. My oldest sons walked in and saw their mother swollen ,bruised and bloodied on the living room floor. the rest of our kids weren't there, thank GOD- My neighbors were the ones to call the police. My oldest were outside playing.

I changed but my H didn't, he lost control of me and has slowly lost control of himself. I turned into the person I was suppose to be and he felt threatened by my happiness. I am guessing at all of this but I can't come up with no other reason for what my h did to me.

I am still scared. I have no choice but to D now. sometimes you have to draw the line. I tried. I thank God for this site and the people on here even though I am rarely here anymore.

Love,Lisa

[MidwesternGirl]

I am so sorry to hear this.

Didn't you just have a baby, too?

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((((((Lisa))))))))))

I was afraid this might happen. I'm so sorry it did. Lisa, you went beyond what anyone could have hoped, or expected.

I hope you are able to put your life back together, and that he never bothers you again! We are all here for you!

[chicki]

I too come from an abusive R. Beleive me this is te best thing to do is leave him. You have grown boys and you dont want them to continue the cycle thinking its ok to hit women.

I hope you get all the help you deserve.
Your in my prayers.

[yellowrose]

((((Lisa))))

I am so sorry. you gave it all that you could. your h was hanging at the edge for a while now.

You and your kids are in my prayers.

Y

[short1]

So so so sorry. Please take care of yourself. I am hoping you have someone to be with tonight. That is a line. Having seen that line crossed, please protect yourself. And please make sure you have help as he will try again.

A million hugs and more surround you.

[Tia]

LisaLost?? NOOOO! You ARE LisaWon!

You are a survivor, and by no means a failure. You gave him your strength and heart. The swelling and bruises will heal. He remains in jail; and remember, file a restraining order. I wish I could do more to help. This person is a disgrace; and file a restraing order! He does not deserve you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Emotional, physical, psychological, relational, and spiritual healing takes time. Continue to GAL for YOU, and the kids. Do something new everyday. Speak Words of Affirmation to yourself. Surround yourself with positive, loving people. Also, trust your instincts.

Pulleeze do no say, " I shoulda", "I woulda", or "I coulda". Its a blessing that this person is out of your life! He deserves the cell, where the rodents are.

Allow yourself to heal. In time, let us know how you're doing. Btw, we have the Surviving the Big D forum too. Articles regarding to forgivenesss are supplied too.

Hugs and prayers from my home to yours...

Be well,
/Tia

[ACJ]

Lisa. I am so sorry about this. You tried so very hard to save your M. Like everyone else I too think that this a line that cannot be crossed in reverse.

Take care. Keep posting here so that we can continue to help you and email me if you want to talk off the BBs.

[Astimegoeson]

I have not followed your situation from the beginning, but I'm sorry to hear what he has done to you. It boils my blood to hear when Woman and/or children are physically abused. It tells you all you need to know about him. He's not worth the garbage you set out to the curb.

Hang in there and take care of yourself.

[LisaLost]

Thank you all for your kind posts. I have been on these boards for about a 2 and a half years. I am sooo thnkful for Michelle and her books and the people here. I did win back my marriage but like I said my H did not change and I did. I learned so much from here and it gives me the strength I need to let go an dknow that I will be ok.

I know I have given this my all. Those that know me here I hope will back me up on that. I never wanted to give up until I knew I had done everything I can and I believe I have done that.

Thanks you Tia for coming out and posting -that means alot. well all of you guys do. I will post here some but will probably move over to the surviving thread. Sometimes you just have to save yourself. I tried so hard for so long. It does feel a little bad to give up after all that I have done but I must continue GAL for me and the kids.

Thanks so much again,
Love,Lisa