I'm probably mis-portraying the sitch. I will quit talking to her unless she initiates, in which case I'll just be cordial.
But I'm not going to be feel bad about myself for not agreeing to wait while she decides if her A is going to fizzle or not. That is too much of a boundary for me, I guess. Maybe it's bad DBing, but she's been throwing up the D mantra and saying she won't put energy into working on M for months now. Her deciding she's excited to try things with OM is the last straw for me. I'll give her what she's been asking for, but I won't stoop to her level. I'll continue to be the good person that I am.
I didn't talk her into leaving. I supported her decision to leave, but gave her reasons why she should stay. She refused to give those reasons any value. Ultimately, her decisions always came back to the same thing - she thinks OM is her soul-mate.
Is the upcoming isolated working conditions eating me up? Actually, no. But it sure creates a huge hurdle for her seeing anything new in me.
So, this is something different. I'm going with her decision and at the end of 6 months she'll have a nice long time with OM in isolation and then come back to face her D. I am giving them a free pass to do what they want because there isn't a ton I can do about it. All I can do is work on myself and show her someone that would've been a better choice, and will be a great choice for someone else if she decides to finalize D.
Okay, I'm feeling in pain again, though clearer. Don't know why W has acted so conflicted over past month and yet so assertive about D. She blocks me at every attempt to try to start working towards a better R, whether that's telling me what she needs or even just going for a walk together. She is in love with OM, thinks he's a better professional choice, has shut down emotionally to our M, and acts like she's decided things are definitely over no matter what I do.
So this is my last post in Piecing. I've moved back over to Infidelity.
