Well, miracles happened again. He called. He seemed surprised about the weather, and he is still coming down! He liked nekkid weekend, so there! And..... the best news is....
he mentioned going to church! I had been struggling about this, how to share this desire with him and he brought it up!!!!!!
Thank you friends. I was really getting worried.
I feel so blessed.
I still struggle with natural consequences of his actions, but I can not manipulate or impose these things. God will. I just don't want to go through this again. I want my husband to be healthy and whole again, once and for all. Thank you. Got to figure out how to go to the grocery store during nekkid weekend!
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Letting him set the pace in many parts of the reconciling will be hard, but helpful. I like that he is moving toward going to church services together. If he goes with an open heart, mind, and listens ... he will begin to hear his answers and you will be at his side. You may never see him hit bottom personally. That should not diminish your victory. He knows what he has done. He may still be learning why. He should come away knowing he will never do this again, ever. His teenage years are over. Now it is time to enjoy being a grown up.
Nekkid weekend sounds like a good way to start btw. As for groceries, as long as you promise not to let him come to the door, I will be glad to deliver your order and save you the trip. Not sure what you will want besides honey, chocolate syrup,strawberries and whipped cream so you'll need to make a list.
Also, don't worry about a tip at the door, I think that is something that will take care of themselves.
Was, you are my special pool boy. No one has made an offer the sweet to me before. I must be crazy to still love TJ and pass YOU over! I just want to clarify, that I do not feel victorious. I feel complete, and hopeful and full of grace. There is no victory to be had here, only hurt and the spring of hope. I chose to focus on the hope. I hope you know Was, I do not want to be any part of the crash and burn. I am just curious as to if it has happened yet, or still to come. I don't know. I just wait and see. If yesterday was part of that, then it is never easy to suspect that someone you love is going through that much pain. That is all I was trying to say.
So TJ, out of character, decided to push forward, through the blizzard of 2008, and come for nekkid weekend. God had other plans. He found a nut from a southern state to clip his new SUV, and scare this brave soul a bit. So he turned around and headed home. He called, he is safe and sound. Sorry for what he is missing. What is a girl to do?
I am counting my blessings. TJ wanted to be here, 5 weekends in a row with me. He wanted to go to church. He wanted my cooking, which I had braved the elements to secure the vittles. He is home safe.
I am so blessed. I promise not to take it for granted. Thank you, so much for all your love my friends.
I AM SO BLESSED.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I am glad he is alright. It is a good thing he did not get nekkid on the way down or else that would have been something--just kidding.
Really, his progress has been wonderful to hear about.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You are doing great. Keep hanging in there. Sorry this crappy storm messed up your weekend. How about this weather!!! Oh my goodness. My neighbor helped me shovel, thank goodness. I had 10 inches of snow in my driveway with 16 inch drifts in places. I am glad TJ turned back. So many roads have been closed. We're on a level 3 snow emergency and I don't think that will improve any time soon.
You will probably see TJ next weekend. It's suppose to be 50 on Friday. Go figure. This state has such crazy weather.
Stay warm. I know that might be tricky seeing that it's nekkid weekend......
Hugs, Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
LOL! Neekid weekend is in jeopardy. My thermostat is set at 72 and it is 64 in here.....
A weekend off will make it sweet next time,,,,,, Hilton Head is just 2 weeks away! I wonder if I can hold him off till then.....
I have snow drifts up to my windows. I have shoveled 5 times already, I feel like this weekend was a success, I have learned so much about where TJ is...... it is so nice.
I have a secret I have to keep. So far this piecing thing is easy. I know it is going to get harder, but for now it is sweet! I hope this doesn't mislead anybody,
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
