This sounds like a good exercise. Did you find it hard to answer the first question when you started?
It's interesting. I asked my self that question a few minutes ago and what I'm doing at this moment doesn't reflect "what I really, really, really want" for today. This might be a good way for me to get focused on one thing at a time. I can see how this can help to define what we're really about. I too take on a lot and get confused about where my energy is best directed. My C told me to ask myself questions daily that are different, but also designed to help growth. One of them is "Am I doing this because it's what I need and want? Am I doing this to gain love, approval or attention from someone else? Is this in line with my beliefs? Will this help create a loving, healthy and nurturing environment for me and my family?" I've been surprised at how asking those questions has opened my eyes and helped me to recognize the cheeseless tunnels in my life.. and the ones with bad cheese in them too!
I'm also wondering if this would be something good for H and I to share. I wonder how much we do out of obligation and habit rather than living by our beliefs and for our goals.
I hope you keep sharing this! Such positive relection focusing on today and the future
amd and Piglet - Thanks for stopping by. It is still taking me a bit of effort to get to the 'want' versus the 'goals'. And that it is OK for the wants to change, because the power of this is to look at the 3 areas over a period of time, and see what comes up most often.
Where 3 weeks of 2008 have gone, I don't know Here's how I feel right now:
1. What do I really, really, really want?
To feel comfortable I've taken care of the important stuff. I'm feeling like attention deficit is getting the better of me 2. Happiest moment today
Originally Posted By: slowly I'm going to hijack the quote about imperfections Slowly
Slowly, you just gave me something for my "happiest moment today"! You have always been such an inspiration to me, and the fact that something from my thread meant something to you means a lot! Just wanted you to know the source: The Woman's Book of Soul by Sue Patton Thoele.
Hmm, it feels like only yesterday that I stopped by by my own thread, when in fact it seems to be almost 2 months ago. This may be the slowest moving thread My projects all grew in scope, which is terrific financially, but just a nightmare in terms of life in general.
Nothing much to report, we are bundling along better than most, but not in any 'ecstatic-to-be-together' sort of way. NG does not show signs of looking for a transfer back, I have started making plans. If push comes to shove, we may end up living in 2 countries, and right now, it does not seem like a tragedy to me.
I will be in Boston during week of March 31st, if anyone is in the vicinity and fancies a drink, let me know OK, back to the assignment:
Cant make it to Boston , Too far . I do enjoy your honest attitude to life and the willingness to make things happen for you , rather than just bumble along like most.
Thanks for stopping by, Dave. To be honest, weeks can go by when I'm back in the 'semi-conscious' state, and then I have to really pull up my socks to get out of the doldrums.
Last week, a friend of mine who works with dogs and their owners pointed out something that to me was a bit of a revelation. I used to think that when humans took dogs for training classes, it was the dog being trained. Noooo, turns out, it is the human that Liz trains, then it is up to the human to work to get what is wanted out of the relationship. Her experience is also that humans who focus predominantly on rewarding good behaviour and ignoring bad ones, make for the best relationship with their pets. I thought there were some similarities to dbing
Back to my 'right now' snapshot:
1. What do I really, really, really want?
To do what I want to do, and not what I should do, to earn the paycheck
I always liked the one about the Dog that runs from its owner. They chase it yelling , the dog runs harder and when it does come back they scold or hit the poor dog. So next time it runs off it runs further and for longer in fear of the scolding. If the Dog was rewarded for returning then it will not fear returning sooner the next time.
I think the same with the WAS , if they see you and you are sad and make them feel guilty then they are not going to want to see you often.
Here's how I feel right now:
My projects all grew in scope, which is terrific financially, but just a nightmare in terms of life in general. 