thanks for stopping by. Coast was great, though a little windier than I thought. I'm in NorCal, so coast is cold and water is colder, but scenery is spectacular!
I'm sure as much as you've been doing for yourself has really made your W rethink things. Problem seems to be that many spouses don't think it'll last. Well, we'll prove them wrong.
Anyway, W gets back from her trip today, or is maybe back already. We discussed D a week and a half ago and the way she was acting I thought she'd file before she left. Guess it was too much to pack and file for D at the same time - you'd think OM could have helped a little! Wonder how soon she'll jump on it now that she's back - filing for D that is. Tuesday? Wednesday?
I've been boxing up my stuff even though I won't move for 3 weeks. It's going to take a while to separate everything and I'm not sure how to deal with deciding what to take and what to leave. I don't really want to have W over here during this process, but we need to make decisions. Well, I for one am going to take the high road as much as possible, though I'll still look out for my best interests. We'll have 6 months to wait until things are final and I need to set the proper tone right now - that I'm strong, confident, interesting, detached, and worth a lot more than what she's been giving me!
As I think about moving out, I'm struck again by the fact that she never rented a place. We discussed this way back in Nov and I agreed to help pay for it. I know she was looking, but she just never rented a place - kept staying in her aunt's teeny bedroom. Why? There's no way I would do that. I'd find a place and make myself comfortable as soon as possible. Wait, is this me trying to figure out what goes through WAW's mind again?! LOL
Resting today after long bike ride yesterday. Feeling a bit sore.
I think you might be wrong, but I just don't know anymore. At the beginning of March she was incredibly conflicted, then she went to IC and came out with firm decision to pursue OM and get D. She's stuck by her guns since then, being stony and even cruel. Except for when we met to discuss D agreement - then we got along great.
Whatever. Hey, April is a big month in the puppy pen, isn't it?
lodo, I understand if a good place comes up to rent that you can get you almost have to take it. Housing isn't easy. BUT, sometimes it reads like you are giving in to her too easy and just letting her have whatever she wants. I'm not there to know how it feels in person so DON'T get cranked okay? And no, I don't know what you should do different. Maybe get a fancy bike like mine.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Just noticed your post. I'm not giving in. As part of the D agreement her parents are buying me out of my equity in the house. It's a fair deal, but means I have to move. I told her I'd only take it if I had plenty of time to find a place, but I started looking and realized that I'd rather just be out of the house and in my own place where I can relax. So it's a good thing. And i found a great place.
Hi Lodo, Just checking on you. Hope you are having a good day. Mine is OK. Nice weather here. So I'm trying to think AS IF. So far its the only way to get through. Hope you can do the same. Lyn
Me 46/H 48 M 19/T 20 S 16 D 9 Bomb 2/9/08 OW 2/29/08 Ended A 3/12/08 (LIAR)
Thanks for checking in. I'm okay, though the process of packing is hard. Passed W while out on a run this AM - just said good morning in as pleasant a voice as possible and kept going. Usually I would have run with her, but didn't feel like it, so ran on ahead - I'm faster than her.
I emailed her on Monday after she got back from her trip and told her I'd rented a place and asked if we could split the joint account and discuss property division so I could pack. She said she'd come over this weekend and would work on getting paperwork together - D papers? I thought she couldn't serve them to me. Or just bank stuff? Guess I'll find out, but am surprised I haven't been served yet. Anyway, I'm sure this will be a process that's just great fun - going through the house, garage, and shed and deciding who gets what.
Part of me doesn't know how to act - I need to get this stuff taken care of for my move, but also feel like I'm helping to push the D. Oh well, this is CA - we still have to wait 6 months and it hasn't even been 6 months since the bomb. It'll be 6 months towards the end of this month.
