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[Ready2Change]

Yesterday was very long. Woke up at 5Am. Drove for 3 hours (W drove seperate) to get to Michele office. The session was good for me. I am hopefull W learned something (time will tell).

I talked to my Mom about my Sitch. Found out my grandmother not doing good, most likely moving into assisted living. I need to go see her soon... My Moms husband may need heart surgery...
I spent about 5 hours at there house talking about our issue...Always sad to here other peoples divorce stories (Empathy is driving me crazy these days!) It felt good to hug my mom.

When I arrived home, all I wanted to do was get some emotional support from W (she was asleep and still an Alien) when I got home..had to cope with the pain alone...Got angry...controlled it..cried...

[Ready2Change]

I did a big 180 for the session yesterday. The day before, I went shoping and bought all new name brand clothing (noth face etc). I wore it to the session. I felt really good in this and it was nice and comfortable. I never spend that kind of money on clothing, but I considered this an important "date". W was at session when I arrived, and she definately checked out the new outfit while avoiding eye contact.

We had 2 breaks during the day, so I went walking around. More new 180's: I initiated several conversations with several strangers. It was a very good feeling. One of the guys has been homeless for 5 years. I sat and talked for awhile. I had some cash, so gave it to him (old habbit that I havn't been doing lately).

I also picked up a few small gifts for the kids (Old me didn't buy to many things for kids, They already have more toys than you can imagine).

[NNP1965]

Are you saying that you and your W spent an entire day with Michele, as in Michele Weiner-Davis??? WOW

Can you give us any idea what it was like? Was it a counseling session or more like a lecture? Was it just the two of you with Michele or other couples also?

I guess I am just in awe that someone would have that opportunity. I have listened to Michele's CDs and I just think it would be so awesome to actually get to meet her and have the chance to have her talk to both H and W.

Has your W shared her thoughts on the day?

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[Ready2Change]

Are you saying that you and your W spent an entire day with Michele, as in Michele Weiner-Davis??? WOW

Yes. We had a session from 9-4. This was the first time W or I have been to counseling. W is full speed ahead with D. W didn't want weeks of sessions. She was very reluctant to go, but she did!

Can you give us any idea what it was like?

Michele was wounderful. She listened to our issues as well as covered topics that I have read in her books. She spend some time with us as a couple, as well as some one on one time with each of us. Michele guided W and I through an "Active Listening" dialog. Very usefull. W and I actually came to an agreement on an issue!

Was it a counseling session or more like a lecture?

Counseling session

Was it just the two of you with Michele or other couples also?

Just Me, W, and Michele

I guess I am just in awe that someone would have that opportunity. I have listened to Michele's CDs and I just think it would be so awesome to actually get to meet her and have the chance to have her talk to both H and W.

It was really great to meet her in person. As I watched Michele, I was able see how to she was able to draw out feelings from W (and me). Michele asked how W saw future. It was very different than I invision, but the KEY WAS "I UNDERSTAND HOW W FEELS!". Watching Michele just listen was very enlightening!

Has your W shared her thoughts on the day?

I am praying Michele had a positive effect on W. I haven't seen or spoken wife since session. I should see W tonight.

[sgctxok]

Can you describe an "active listening dialogue"?


Michele IS soooooooo cooooooool, isn't she????

[NNP1965]

Thanks for sharing that R2C. I know I would and I am sure almost everyone here would give their right arm to have that experience!

I had no idea that was even an option. I sure hope your wife takes it to heart.

[sgctxok]

Did you see my second to the last post (four posts above)?

[Ready2Change]

Did you see my second to the last post (four posts above)?

Yes, Thank you for restoring it! I don't think W has any desire to explore this site.

[Ready2Change]

Can you describe an "active listening dialogue"?


Michele IS soooooooo cooooooool, isn't she????

I don't have time now, but will when I have more free time.

Michele is great! To bad I didn't find her 10 years ago!