Well Kiki...I've got this urge to do some serious outside work on the house, like pressure washing the brick pavers then sealing them in the driveway, buy more mulch, replace plants that dies due to the water being shut off. Since he can't seem to do it and I don't have the extra money anymore to keep putting it in it.....I thought I would send him a text asking him to drop off a home depot card for me since it's the long weekend and I really want to put it up for sale. So as usual he did not respond.
So I got this idea......why not just get a home depot card?? I can afford the monthly payment, it will keep track of how much is spent on repairs that he's supposed to pay for, AND I can get things done.....so I just applied online...whamo! $500.00
And I have a re-blonding tomorrow!
So.....all is good.
What have you got planned?
I'll have to give you a call and perhaps we can meet up for a late lunch or early dinner saturday.
ONLY if you don't have plans.
I am in no way becoming a stalker!!!
That was a disclaimer by the way
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Kikifree - the control thing [to go back a bit] I had a VERY interesting conversation while stuck in traffic with a friend of mine, today. SHe was abused in her previous relationship, and she said afterwards she became a total control freak for quite a while. Because control had been taken from her, she felt she now had to control everything to feel safe. Now, since so many of our MLCers have been abused as children, and that MLC is perhaps their waking up subconsciously to this, the 'control freakery' makes more sense. FWIW my h is also getting meansr and madder and I have been at this about as long as you . . . Digging in for the duration??
Cinders, that is no longer my question or my quest. It is rather, what sort of person do I want to be, and what is required of me by God?
Yes, I still love my husband, or the person that he was, but I am no longer the person he left, and I want a better marriage than the one I had, good though it was.
I truly want to be the best person I can be - which sounds a bit priggish, but marriage restoration would be one of the possible outcomes, and not the only one. Like St Paul I want to learn to be content in whatever situation I find myself. Bad things happen to lots of people, and they cope. It is how we respond to what life throws at us that matters.
And we have all grown and changed so much, I am proud to know so many people on these boards. They are heroes and heroines, so many of them, raising their kids acting kindly towards their souses, in the face of much provocation.
