When I was posting that, thought about your H and low and behold when I was just reading your post you mentioned it I knew it was headed that way from the reports they were giving. Hope they are fine my thoughts go out to them...
Quick update...
W just texted me and said " given the situation it was nice to know you were concerned & took the time to talk to me, I really do appreciate it. Only you and mom know how much I hate storms. Thanks again. I am fine now."
That's the nicest she has talked(text) to me since Aug '07. Not reading anything into it was just nice to hear.
You're in Nebraska? My mom was born in O'Neill.. we'd go there as kids and even had our own library cards. Loved the state, hated driving past all the cornfields.
Hey Brian, really good job on comforting her. You did awesome ! Keep up the good work, & I think it was good that you didn't say ILY. I felt bad a while ago when H would say it, & I was too mad to say it back.
I didn't know you're in Nebraska, I dated a Husker. He was crazy fun.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
RF - Well done sir, have a read of SC latest post to know where your W is at. I think that will help a lot of us H in this sitch, great inside info !!!
When I was posting that, thought about your H and low and behold when I was just reading your post you mentioned it I knew it was headed that way from the reports they were giving. Hope they are fine my thoughts go out to them...
Quick update...
W just texted me and said " given the situation it was nice to know you were concerned & took the time to talk to me, I really do appreciate it. Only you and mom know how much I hate storms. Thanks again. I am fine now."
That's the nicest she has talked(text) to me since Aug '07. Not reading anything into it was just nice to hear.
Brian
Excellant brother just excellant. I told you earlier to be a "shoulder for her to cry on" and you have pulled it off perfectly. Someone to comfort her but smart enough to know that you must do it with no emotion and no ILY's..
very good Brian. I am very impressed. You have come far in a short time.
Keep in mind that she may flip back to the "mean" WAW next time you talk/text to her. prepare yourself.
That's exactly how I took it also, I have seen too many emotions coming out on this board last couple of days that have wrenched my heart, I guess the fact that I was so surprised she called I didn't have time to analyze it just reacted, at the time I was thinking of D11 she was at a sleep-over so worried for her kept my emotions low on W.
O'Neill very familar with it, I am in Lincoln. There is alot of that in Neb and not much more well besides BEEF.
SC.... thanks most of the time I am just winging it like everyone else, just tryin not to backslide. In sitches like that last night when you care/love someone your natural response is "it's goona be okay & I love you," it really sucked not being able to say that but was hoping my just being there would speak louder, guess it kinda did but taking it for face value.
Go MIGHTY Huskers, we might just turn out to be the team of the past with Bo at the helm. I have no doubts he was 'crazy' fun we tend to drink and tad bit too much in this town on home game Sat
Arthur, glad you stopped by. Haven't had time to get over to SC but will check it out thanks. We will see where things go from here not expecting nothing from it just felt good.
"Someone to comfort her but smart enough to know that you must do it with no emotion and no ILY's.."
It twern't easy in a sitch like that where there is worry and concern like for a W or H ya know? At that moment my thoughts and concern were greater for D11, she was at a sleep over and it had me concerned, and it is amazing that things that get told to me on here & things other people say do at times pop into your head. Hard to explain.
"very good Brian. I am very impressed. You have come far in a short time."
Thanks appreciate that I know the road is going to be long and full of holes....
"Keep in mind that she may flip back to the "mean" WAW next time you talk/text to her. prepare yourself."
Mike I have no doubts she will flip, those types of sitch's like bad weather, car accidents, etc. I think there is a core value there that is just instinct and the WAS if there is no OP/OM/OW their mind just goes directly to the one that always has been there maybe don't know just a thought....
