Mike - Hang in there bruv, I don't think you saying what you did is to bad at this time as I am assuming you did it in a calm manner. Maybe that was an opportunity to encourage her to go to IC for her own benefit when this finally happens as you don't want her to ruin her life with built up anger !!! Just might prompt her to go before and it seems obvious to me she is in denial if a C has rang her 5 times to go, says to me C knows there are underlying issues with her.
Maybe word it in such a way that you want her to have the happiness she craves and deserves so will she go to IC for herself. You know she has alll this anger and (through you eating her alive line) what has she got to lose.
I personally thought it sounded pretty constructive. W needs to see consequences and you needed to get things done for closure. I don't see any problem in showing her the reality of her decisions. Stay strong, sounds like you are.
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Dang, brand new 26 HP Craftsman lawnmower, I want it too.
The ferry at sunset is stunning.
Take care.
SC--are you coveting my lawn mower??? just kidding. hope you told the web guy you likes the pictures. That place is in my heart. There's something about that coast line that draws me there.
Mike - Hang in there bruv, I don't think you saying what you did is to bad at this time as I am assuming you did it in a calm manner. Maybe that was an opportunity to encourage her to go to IC for her own benefit when this finally happens as you don't want her to ruin her life with built up anger !!! Just might prompt her to go before and it seems obvious to me she is in denial if a C has rang her 5 times to go, says to me C knows there are underlying issues with her.
Maybe word it in such a way that you want her to have the happiness she craves and deserves so will she go to IC for herself. You know she has alll this anger and (through you eating her alive line) what has she got to lose.
GL as Always
Arthur-she will not go. it falls on deaf ears. The MC says there is no reason it can't be saved. It is now about "punishing" me. I am convinced of that. I did say it in a calm manner bt really don;t think it mattered how I said it. It had the same effect either way. None. Unless you sent something last night or early this A.m. then I did not get it, please try again.
She will not "hear" anything anybody has to say about changing her decision. She has made her decision and it appears she will not go back. The only thing she goes back on is history. She sees no good, only the bad. She looks at honeymoon/wedding pictures and her eyes are blank. There is nothing there. Lots of anger and what I believe is hate.
I can't really worry about waht she does when we are done. My D will be my main priority. and surviving.
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I personally thought it sounded pretty constructive. W needs to see consequences and you needed to get things done for closure. I don't see any problem in showing her the reality of her decisions. Stay strong, sounds like you are.
G-I don't see where I have a choice. It was business that had to be addressed. It will also save $ on Wednesday when medaition. The more we have done the less some L has to split the things up for us.
I don't want this. I think it is wrong. It is against my core values. It will hurt my D. It can be worked out. It can be "fixed" I'm not in control. I can't do it alone. She won't join me. She can't let herself join me.
To me it's prudent. To me it's smart. It's being realistic. It's being proactive. It's something that must be done. Looks like it's inevitable.
It's Friday, you got a half day of work, then it's off to the golf course with a cold brew sweatin in your hand sweet!
Have a good day
Brian
Yep. W will leave midday today and won't be back until Monday late. Golf today. Friend's house tomorrow night for dinner and drinking. Golf on Sunday. Should be a full weekend.
It's Friday, you got a half day of work, then it's off to the golf course with a cold brew sweatin in your hand sweet!
Have a good day
Brian
Yep. W will leave midday today and won't be back until Monday late. Golf today. Friend's house tomorrow night for dinner and drinking. Golf on Sunday. Should be a full weekend.
Alright Mike, leave it !!! The jealousy here is getting a little overwhelming !!
It's Friday, you got a half day of work, then it's off to the golf course with a cold brew sweatin in your hand sweet!
Have a good day
Brian
Yep. W will leave midday today and won't be back until Monday late. Golf today. Friend's house tomorrow night for dinner and drinking. Golf on Sunday. Should be a full weekend.
Alright Mike, leave it !!! The jealousy here is getting a little overwhelming !!
Enjoy
GAL is all I have left at the moment. it's like GL told Ping and I a while back.."you can either get busy living, or get busy dieing"
Remember Arthur. Heroes live hard, play hard. LOL lOL
