Searching for the truth..for me 5

[Jeanette1120]

Heyya bear!!

Mediation is fine.

Mediation with a good attorney at your side.........PRICELESS! Well, maybe not priceless but you get my drift!!

How silly that you have to hear this via your sick/just operatated on mil. ScalpItch doesn't even have the medicated shampoo to tell you all this himself huh?

How weird.

He can come in, do laundry, cook dinner, talk about his day but not even mention a divorce. Lunatic.

Hehehehe....a small studio apartment!! I heard that one too. I just want to be alone to figure myself out because I'm sooooooo confused More like so confused trying to keep up with what lie they told.

My best piece of advice to give to you.

NO EMOTIONS when it comes to settlement. It will not matter if they think your trying to take them for everything. Whatever....

Oh....and don't let their whimpers of "See! You never loved me or you wouldn't be doing this" distract you. It's all bullshiit.

Keep your head held up HIGH! When it's all said and done you will know inside your heart that you were not being mean or malicious, you were being fair!

Good Luck!
and
God Speed!

Hugs,

Jeanette

[phbear316]

Oh Jeanette

LOL, LOL, Scalp Itch. I love it. I know right have to hear it from MIL. He just does not know how to tell me anything or even talk to me. It will be one year ago this weekend that he told me he wanted a D. And i will not let it get to me. No way no how.

He just does not know how to communicate, lunatic, he is having a hard time keeping the lies straight. That is becoming more and more obvious.

There will be no emotions, he won't say that bull [censored] to me over you never loved me. he would not. I am being fair and being fair to me.

There is a song new song, and it has some lines that i plan to toast to myself and h when the divorce is final. They may sound crazy to you but mean something to me cause I cannot stop listening to this song.

"Truth is I am done pretending I never thought that i had anymore to give, pushing me so far here I am with out you. Drink to all that we have lost, mistakes we have made everything will change but love will remain the same. "

I believe i have to say good bye to the past, and this failed marriage, but I also have to believe in hope and love, cause as i say there is someone else out there for me.

Jeanette - maybe P LOL.

I was saying to (p) today I just want this to be over with, I am now at the point I just want to get the ball rolling in this. I will have to speak with him next week, for he will notice my check is not going into the joint account. Maybe he won't who knows, I want to either do this with lawyers or mediation.

My head will be held high, you know, i was just sitting here thinking I cannot remember the last time i cried about H and what he is doing. Guess its a sign for me i am healing and moving on.

I just want to start moving ahead for me

hugs
bear

[W2G]

Hi Bear,

I also noticed that your H's Mom had to be the brave one to break the "mediation news" to you. I can't believe your h doesn't have the b@lls to speak to you about it himself...

You deserve so much better my friend. I'm glad you are seeing that now!

Hugs,
W2G

[phbear316]

Hi W2G

Long time no hear from

Yes, this is H's M.O. He does not talk he claims to his family he can't talk to me cause I get so upset he just does not know how to approach me.

I am seeing this was a big issue with h and i he just never talked to me about things that were truly important. He does not know how to talk to me.

Well I can tell you that was last year, not now. I want him to start to talk to me, Go ahead big boy, set up the mediation, I want you to.

My h has no balls or backbone, the new take a bow song by rihannah, is word for word my H. He puts on quite a show, very entertaining, he needs to take a bow and get going.

come on tell my your speech, i will give you a standing ovation and toast to what we could have had. Its over now.

Its over and you are right I do deserve much better. ANd its not going to come from my h.. Most of it will come from me, and someone else who is out there for me. One step at a time, i am getting there with my head held high.

hugs
bear