27 and counting...

[Wooglint]

If you become single, both things will happen. Teacher goes proof and I'm on a plane.

However, he will come home to you.

[naej]

Newsflash,newsflash

If you become single, both things will happen. Teacher goes proof and I'm on a plane.

However, he will come home to you.

You read it here first.

[Kalni]

Now Woog, you are really making it difficult for me to choose what to wish for...

naej, you are fun. Look me up, join us.

John, you are alive!!!! Thank God, I was worried about you..
K

[Wooglint]

Wish to be happy. That's the only thing you can control.

[cw68]

Kalni, our situations are so similar, I really do understand how you feel. I was feeling it all weekend, too. I lost my hope this weekend and I know things are over for me. It put me in the lowest, deepest spot yet. Yesterday morning was the lowest of the low and as the day wore on, I grew stronger. Today brings me back up some more. I am relishing this feeling, trying to grab on to it. I am trying to make the highs last longer and longer. Each day is a challenge and a success.

We are better and stronger people than we were a year ago. We have more hurt and less joy, that's a truth, but we will, we can. Our Hs may have taken a lot away from us, but they cannot take everything away from us. I just want to skip ahead one year.

We will feel badly, we will feel raw pain. But we can feel strength and take joy in our children. We can take joy in ourselves knowing that we are right, that we are good and we have a lifetime in front of us. It will be OK. It may not be what we wanted it to be, but we can make it good.

I honestly think, as painful as this is, I would rather be in my position that my H's position. I know that as time passes, I will continue to know that I did the right thing, that I hold the tools for happiness. My H will find out that he did the wrong thing and that he still has to get the tools for happiness. His future misfortune doesn't make me feel good, but I can see that the long road will be much more difficult for him than it will be for me.

Our futures hold lots of sunshine, Kalni.

I need to get to Greece!

[BobbiJo]

I agree with everybody else on here. You are strong, you are wonderful, you will survive and thrive regardless.

But let's be honest, we are all on here because we DON'T want our Marriages to be over....so I understand the fear and anxiety, too. I feel it myself a lot. Some days that fear holds me too tight, some days I hardly feel it at all.

Your C is right, you cannot control what H will decide so you need to try to find a way to let go of it for now. Love on those kids. Enjoy the day off, although it is evening for you now, I know....

[Kalni]

cw68,

I know our situations are similar. I've been following yours and saw your pain and hurt. I could feel it with you. That's why I didn't know what to say to you. You are right. But you know that somedays knowing we've done all we could isn't helping much...

Thank you for stopping by while you are feeling low yourself. Shows what a good person you are. Thank you.

K

[Kalni]

Woog, if I could, I wouldn't be here right now...

[Kalni]

I am letting go Bbj, I already feel much better. Last night and this morning was difficult. Now I feel better. Tomorrow I am working so I'll be busy which is good.
Thanks sis...

[cw68]

Being right, being wrong, whatever. None of that matters when we are lowest of our lows. In fact, it almost makes it hurt more knowing that making the right choices doesn't always bring happiness. The pain is raw, red hot and it will end. I keep telling myself that. I'll tell you, too, if it helps. Then when I'm on here, you can tell me.