I wanted to start a new thread because the old one is about to lock. ALSO this may be the start of a NEW chapter in my life....
Ok So I was out back with my son shooting at the crows that have been attacking my dog and cat. My Wife comes out side and said I had a phone call. When I got to the door she said it was from Retrouvaille, they wanted to talk to both of us. I picked up the phone and it was “Frank”. He said he had some questions / statements that he had to read to us and we needed to answer them. (My Wife was on the other line...
#1
Are we seeing any psychiatrist? Me: No just a counselor a few months back Wife: same answer
Frank; Ok it is just that if you are you can go ahead and tell them you are coming here.
#2
If either spouse is involved in an affair, that relationship must be severed before you attending the weekend.
Me: Ok Wife: OK
#3
You must follow the communication method taught throughout the program and fully participate in the six post-weekend sessions. Me: yes Wife; what if a date interferes with a family function?
Frank: You can have make up days.
Wife: ok it’s just that it is far away and the travel time and all.
Frank. You can’t miss all of them. But one or two can be made up.
Me: We will do our best effort to make it
Frank: great I understand
SOOO I have my confirmation. I did feel uncomfortable when he asked the “affair” question but W did not hesitate to answer. I was going to check the phone but now I am going to build some trust and let it go. I also was not thinking about the after sessions but wife seemed really willing to go. (Except to mass). It may not have come across that way the way how I wrote it here but she was not hesitant or really looking for an excuse to not go…
That’s it for now
Later
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I was shooting with an air pistol that shoots little plastic pellets. Won't kill them but I bet is smarts. I do live in town. As for keeping up with my thread..... It's been around over a year. Last year at this time when my son and I took our trip W was barely speaking to me. I a sure at that time she was in constant contact (by phone, he live in another state) with the OM. Now she may have been splitting hairs when the guy asked that all "contact" with the OP needs to stop. She may have thought "physical contact" but I am not going to second guess ANYTHING... I know when I first found the pics and said All contact must stop she refused.... Maybe she realizes she was being used I don't know but I am NOT going to worry about it. I am sooo Glad the phone call came before my trip. It is one less thing to worry about when I am away..... 3 more day till my trip and 30 more days till Retro..... I NOW truly believe I belong here in “Piecing Our Marriage Back Together”. I have been in LIMBO for ever....
Later Husband / Dr LOve...
Last edited by husband; 06/12/0812:30 AM.
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
Glad to hear they finally confirmed. Not all the Retro programs make those phone calls. We just got a letter asking us to come with an open mind and a willing heart. Or is it a willing mind and an open heart? Either way.
