when he is mad he is intentionally trying to hurt me with things he doesn't believe...
That's it, Kalni! He has not made any decision yet, he is mad at himself for that reason, he is afraid of the moment when he has to face you and he takes his anger and frustration out on you!
I'm so glad you're feeling strong and confident now, Sunshine! And I'm sure he is nowhere close to being ok. Give him a chance, Kalni mou.
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Good for you! I feel that too! I spoke to him earlier, moan moan moan and I felt relieved when he said he wasnt coming round tonight! I am starting to think too... well, convince me to keep waiting. I hear you.
Great minds DO think alike! (hi Forest)
Ali x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
K, You say that you would not accept that kind of talk from a friend. Does your husband speak that way to his friends? Probably not.....but he does speak that way to his wife...you are still his wife in his eyes.
I too am glad to see your mood shift. I agree w/ Ali in that if this is how your relationship has been, you don't deserve that at all.
However, keep in mind this is about him, not you. He seems to have issues that he isn't looking to solve any time soon. So, now you need to stand up for yourself and just look out for you.
Give him time after he comes home (you said a week, right?) and then let him know what you want and what you won't stand for - i.e. his berating you for things that aren't your fault. Let him know you love him and don't want to end the marriage, but you also won't stay in it if things don't change.
He'll need to know that he has to choose to work on fixing the issues of your marriage in order for it to continue. If not, then you'll take your memories of loving him and head off w/ your beautiful children toward your new life.
That is my thoughts on this - meet him at the airport as planned, give him the week you talked about, then discuss your needs w/ him. Once that is done, you keep going forward w/ life for Kalni. The rest will fall into place, including H if he decides to work w/ you on your M.
As for not being married again, I think Woog will be crushed. Poor guy.
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Poor guy.