You sound in a good place within yourself. Your clarity sounds for reassuring. Loved the comment of "I look good" nothing wrong with abit of ego to keep the PMA going.
Keep doing what you are doing for you and the kids, it seems to be what gives you the most strength when you stay that path. Good job on rethinkin the house, why let him have it as you said you are the one that found it, bid on it, and loves it, that makes it your house in my mind.
Woog, If you break yours just yell at me. I've got plenty, some to be used and some that have been used on my head..I've got an 8x8 that I was warped with earlier if you want it..
Hi BBJ! Sorry I haven't been around, it is tough spending time at the beach. Actually read my thread about my trip on back and you might ROLF. I'll try to catch up with you tomorrow. Love you and miss you!
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Hey guys! I am back! No real news, except we may get an offer on our house today. The agent is pretty confident we will, and H did a conference call with the almost-buyer yesterday to answer his questions....think now he is ready to make the offer.
I am glad b/c once the house is sold there will be no further excuses for H not to file. I plan to go meet with a lawyer in IA once I move so I can have all my legal ducks in a row for if/when he files. Actually thinking about doing it myself, but I am not 100% on that yet.
H has been calling several times a day this week. It is mostly about the house, though, or the kids. But he also calls just to talk to me....Last night he called and i had a horrible headache, he chit chatted for 10 minutes about the traffic, his day at work, how cute D looked when he saw her last Saturday, etc. Felt to me like he was pulling topics out of his ass just to be on the phone. After ten minutes I said I had to go make dinner and got off the phone. He called 2 more times after that anyway.
I am almost annoyed b/c I feel like he is trying to be "friends" again. But I don't know if I want to be friends with him if we can't be married, too. I know it will be best for the kids, but right now it is hard to be chatty with him knowing that he will most likely file on me in the next 6 weeks...
Looks like you finally getting mad was a catalyst for your husband. Let's face it, hon, he is still a DAM and you are doing fine.
Do not get your big girl panties in a bunch about the possibility of his filing. If he does, so what? You keep focusing on you, the kids, and the adventure ahead with your move and new house. It is a new beginning, one way or the other.
When he tries to keep you on the phone, politely say. I am sorry Dan, but I need to feed the kids and get some things done around the hosue, I do not have time to chat right now--then HANG UP. Do not wait for him to respond, nothing.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I've got my fingers and toes crossed that you get a nice and juicy offer on the house today!!!! That would be wonderful. One less worry for you!
Sounds like your H is minding his pee's and que's at the moment. Seems like there has been a power shift in your marriage... and about time. You are a wonderful, loving woman and he has stepped on your heart one too many times.
I really like how you sound right now.. and I like that he is pursuing you. You keep him chasing hun. Let him feel the lack of control for a change.
