Bbj, If it is a LRT for you make sure in your head and heart you are prepared to bite the bullet (I hope that is correct, feel free to laugh if it isn't).
Hey Sunshine
Very good with the American idiom. I still laughed anyway but I guess that's just me. At what point did you learn English cuz you seem to be pretty well versed in it aside from the expressions/sayings on ocassion. But even those are becoming.. second nature. <--- There's another one for you, are you familiar?
I guess I could say hi to Cheerleader while I am hijacking. Hi there BobbiJo. Did you see that Blindsided1 had her Kendall on Wed. I hope your day is going swell. Peace be with you.
The gift is you BBJ. Your love, your heart, YOU! At this point he doesn't deserve you.. and he shouldn't have you unless he earns your respect and your trust back...
Yeah, maybe that is what annoys me. It is like he says he is trying to figure it all out, but nothing is any different. I don't want him to say he hates me or anything, but it just makes it so difficult when he says things that make it sound like he wants his family but keeps doing dumb-ass things instead....
That is why I am considering filing. The mixed-message thing is getting old........
BBJ, IMO it's just going to continue. I hate to say it but it is. I think they just continue on to either make it friendly or in your H's case to "eat cake"...it looks like both of htose things happen a lot in these sitches.
You're doing really good and sounding really strong.
I had a nice long post but my D shut down the computer while I was typing and I lost it all....
so here goes
1)Got a GREAT offer, $4K under our asking price, but buyer wants NO inspections, NO appraisal, NO conditions, just wants to buy it as-is, as soon as he can!
2)I am ready to discuss the D with H. Everybody said before I should wait b/c I wasn't really wanting a D. I still don't want one in the grand scheme of things, but I am not happy with the way things are and they seem to be "stuck" this way, H talking about how things COULD be but never changing....
The sale of the house was the one thing H wanted before we split assets, he got a new place, etc. Now we have a buyer, we can move on...
When ever I ask H where he plans to live (he doesn't want to live w/Tom now), he says he doesn't know. Ditto for a real visitation schedule. It is time to get real and be responsible and have a plan in place for once we are both in Iowa (5 days and counting!). The kids deserve nothing less and H needs to get his act together.....
Hey Bbj, you sound good. You sound like you're standing on solid ground. Your H sounds confuzzled (Kalni, it's my own word sweetie) & lost.
Keep focusing on you & your kids. Let H find his own way. Like Mike says with IC.
hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
