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Hey R2C, just a quick question and then I will go. I will post more upon your response.

Do you believe that divorce would be the end of your fight to save your relationship?


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Originally Posted By: sofaraway
Hey R2C, just a quick question and then I will go. I will post more upon your response.

Do you believe that divorce would be the end of your fight to save your relationship?


Ian


No, but I think it is going to make my relationship worse before it gets better. We both need to get some space.


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So I can not ride in the car with W. She was in the car tonight. On the way to baseball I had to turn around and take my motorcycle to game to avoid conflict with W.

She keeps putting the kids in the middle of this right in front of me. I would rather not know what she is saying to them. I believe we did agree on alternating weekends with kids. We shall see. In her mind we have been doing this "for weeks", but I have not had a weekend with the kids yet.


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Originally Posted By: sofaraway
Hey R2C, just a quick question and then I will go. I will post more upon your response.

Do you believe that divorce would be the end of your fight to save your relationship?


Ian


No, but I think it is going to make my relationship worse before it gets better. We both need to get some space.


Good answer, I know many couples who have been married more than once.......to each other.........

Worse before better, absolutely. That's pretty much the pattern dude.


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Today was good. I did a great bike ride. Only downside is a spoke broke, wheel went out of true and had to walk the bike down the mountain.

Spend some time tonight with kids.


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Not sure if this is good.....

I used to tap my ring on things. I tried today, looked down and the ring was not there. I realized I was free and smiled....


How do stay attached while detaching????

1) No drinking!
2) Do not let things W does affect me.

Any other ideas???


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Devil Bunny!

Embrace what is good
Let go of what sucks.

*hugs*

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Originally Posted By: Gypsy
Devil Bunny!

Embrace what is good
Let go of what sucks.

*hugs*


Good advice!

So I am embracing the lawyers to do the dirty work. W's L sent my L a letter with her intention on moving out with children (if I don't leave). I told L both options unacceptable. A third option that is acceptable is for W to leave (without children).

DBing away! I just ask all to keep praying for my family!


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I put 2 and 2 together. W was cleaning the kids bedroom (for the first time in months!) She most likely packing up some of the kids things....


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Interesting development today:

I received email from W today offering 50/50 parenting time with kids until August 17 (What I have been asking for all along). L will propose a nesting agreement. I also said if W agrees to 50/50 plan to be year round I would move out within 48 hours of agreement.

W is going out of town for until Monday. It will be a nice break for all of us. I don't see the tension at the house that W is expressing to L. But If we are not at house at same time, no was W can make false statements....


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