Retrouvaille here I come

[Dr LOve]

Thanks hoosiermama and Yoyo and yes you too Tal...

Basically 7 days left. I will not believe it until we walk through the doors. I hope it is not too religious because the will turn wife off and possibly make her shut down.
Today was ok. W is really worried about our money sitch. It is so strange that I really could care less if we lost the house and everything else. (Well my jeep is paid for).
You see the way I look at life is as long as you have a partner then you will survive.
I think the stress would be allot less if Wife would just let me in. Like I said before, our "deal" was that I give her space and she will go. This has been rather easy. I think it was easy because I knew there was an end. It is so hard to give our spouses space when we don't know if the next day will be the last.
My Wife has no plans of leaving me. It may be because of the fact she has no job and knows financially it wood suck. Me I really don't care. I have been hurt so bad that this will be the last chance. The last chance that my wife and I can work things out on our own. If Retro does not work then I will have to let family know what I have been going through.
July 15th will be our 19th wedding anniversary.
Is it an omen that we are doing this 4 days before? I did not plan it that way it just happened.
Well tomorrow we are having a party that we can't afford. We were not going to have it this year but EVERYONE loves our 4th of July fireworks and my BBQ. They kind of invited themselves.
Ok I am rambling now been up since 4 am. (It’s 9:15 pm now)

Later
The Doctor has left the building...

Bye

[Dr LOve]

Ok this time next week I will be sick to my stomach from nerves.

Is it really going to happen?
hoosiermama, I will buy some pens. For me and my wife. Thanks for the suggestions. Just to show you how my W has beaten me to a pulp. I am excited about letting my feelings out but fear my W will just criticizes me for my spelling and punctuation.

The hardest part will be NO alcohol.I think it is good but...
Well I need to go get some fireworks with my son. Be back later

[Sara]

doubt it. The nerves are friday night. By Saturday morning you should be relaxed into the program. Remember no one is going to ask you to talk about your sitch. You're just going to hear the leaders talk about their lives. So what's there to be nervous about?

[hoosiermama]

It's not too likely that she'll be very critical, past the first "writing session" or 2. It's just that you tend to restore some trust fairly early on, and it just goes deeper from there. It does have fairly religious overtones, but I never felt it was hard-sell or high pressure.

I'll echo what other posters have said. The only sharing is between the two of you. The presenting couples share their experiences, which are generally pretty powerful. And I'm sure that if you run into a roadblock, there are folks who can help you through it--but the way things are set up you're not likely to need that much facilitation. I felt closer to my H than I had in a long time, and fairly quickly. The overriding feeling was one of relief, and de-stressing, especially after the first evening. So--I don't blame you for being nervous, but it won't be long before you'll chuckle at yourself about that.

Best of luck, and prayers go with you!

[Dr LOve]

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< 6 MORE Days >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

[girlfromipanema]

Holy cow, just 6 more days!!???!!

It's make it or break it time, husband. I have a good feeling. Keep your expectations low, but don't feel hopeless.

Hang in there.

[Dr LOve]

A little journaling,

4 MORE DAYS..........Wife is going from one extreme to the other Happy one minute and real quiet the next.
4th of July went great. NO tension at all. I wanted so bad to walk up to Wife and put my arms around her. But I did not. I promised her.
Wife is really into her computer class. I think like me she is burying herself in it to keep busy. Me... I have been doing Yard work and my house and MIL house, Primmer the roof of the Mustang, Fixed the fence, vacuumed the pool, repaired and painted the garage door at MIL house....
The next big step for me is to discuss next Friday. We have not said one word about it to each other.
I think the hour long ride to get there is going to be the Quietest, longest ride I ever took. I have NO idea what to talk about.
This last week I have had tooooo many negative thoughts ruining through my pea brain. Sooo for the next 4 days I am going to be going to sleep listening to "the secret". Laws of attraction show. With positive thinking.

"See the things that you want as already yours.
Know that they will to you at need. Then let them come.
Don't fret and worry about them. Don't think about your lack of them. Think of them as yours, as belonging to you, as already in your possession"

Robert Collier (1885-1950)



"whether you think you can or think you can't, either way you are right"

Henry ford (1863-1947)

"what you resist persists."
Earl Jung )1875-1961)

"Imagination is everything.It is the preview of life's comming attractions"

Albert Einstein (1879-1955)

[Dr LOve]

Update:

I was thinking about the cat getting fed next weekend and remembered this feeding dish that has a storage bowl that feeds automatically. I went in the closet and got it out. Just then my wife called me into the living room and asked me if I ask D to come over and feed the cat next Saturday. I was holding the container and she then said we could just use that because D lives out of town. I told her that is what I was thinking but D is coming to my mom's anyway because she said she would help with our son and dog that are staying there.
Sooo there is no need for me to bring it up now. IT IS DONE... I printed out the conformation letter and the directions so all that is left is for Friday to get here. (And for me to think of something to talk about during the ride)

Later
Dr LOve

[Dr LOve]

night H

[NikB]

((((H))))

You're doing great - hang in there!