M fr TN Who cares about the stuff, anyway, it's just stuff! How was the haircut? Peace.
It's a 50/50 state. I would say we both care about the stuff. I'm gonna be honest here. This is the second time I'll be starting over and the 1st time I did not take stuff..well this time, if nothing else..I'm taking my 50%...I hate that it comes down to this but that the reality of the sitch I'm in..
The haircut was great. She does a good job, she's nice, she's gentle. She has a nice personality..I DB'ed her a bit while I was there...she's a looker also..as a matter of fact I think she's hot. I told her I was leaving soon and the only reason I would be stepping back into this county was, "to see my D" and "to get my haircut" She seemed pleased with that.
With her spending money like this she will be broke again in no time. Unfortunatley for you it is your money she is spending. \:\(
Well, we don't have a joint account so I consider it her money to a point. My whole problem is this, don't complain about the money sitch, (you're short all the time) and blow money on unneeded items on EBAY..In times of plenty spend away..when the going gets tough then buckle down..
"The haircut was great. She does a good job, she's nice, she's gentle. She has a nice personality..I DB'ed her a bit while I was there...she's a looker also..as a matter of fact I think she's hot. I told her I was leaving soon and the only reason I would be stepping back into this county was, "to see my D" and "to get my haircut" She seemed pleased with that."
Now I don't know what they call this in Tenn., but here in the midwest we would call that a bit of flirtin. Are you sweet on this woman? HAHA! Hey doesn't hurt the PMA to test the waters of a 'hot' woman.
Whatever it is I'm glad you can look forward even in the midst of the sitch.
Now I don't know what they call this in Tenn., but here in the midwest we would call that a bit of flirtin. Are you sweet on this woman? HAHA! Hey doesn't hurt the PMA to test the waters of a 'hot' woman.
sweet on her..No, I would not say that. I would say I have empathy for her situation. She has 3 kids, a small business owner. No help from EX H with the kids. He's an abuser.
We talked R talk a bit, some about me, some about hers. I know more than I once did and think a little different. I know how people get "here" now. I told her how I thought she got "here"..actually I told her that I knew the reasons she got "here" and she agreed. She said she bitched and nagged her previous husbands and that's why she was D'd. I told her the reason she bitched and nagged was because she was not getting what she needed from her M. She smiled and agreed with me.
About 3-4 weeks ago I was there and got my hair cut and this guy walks in. He sits down and makes himself at home, like he owns the place..he talks to her and then leaves. I asked if this was her EX. She said no, she was dating the guy but really wanted rid of him. Said she would never have what she wanted as long as he was around. I let her know he was like a tick..you could tell he was a "hanger on" type guy. I let her know that I thought no guy would ask her out if he was around..
I did not see him yesterday. he was not mentioned. I don't know if the tick is gone or not.
I wish only the best for her. I consider her a friend. She prays for me. She knows my sitch almost as well as you guys. She validates me and shows me empathy..it's nice to have a woman to talk to.
I know how we got "here" I wish I would have known earlier. I wish I could have figured it out earlier. I know how not to get here again..if there ever is an again..again..
yes, I would call it "flirtin" LOL
I hope I made her day..she deserves to have a good day. she's been through the ringer...the ringer is hard. I'm sure it's harder if you have 3 small kids and own your own business.
Now I don't know what they call this in Tenn., but here in the midwest we would call that a bit of flirtin. Are you sweet on this woman? HAHA! Hey doesn't hurt the PMA to test the waters of a 'hot' woman.
sweet on her..No, I would not say that. I would say I have empathy for her situation. She has 3 kids, a small business owner. No help from EX H with the kids. He's an abuser.
We talked R talk a bit, some about me, some about hers. I know more than I once did and think a little different. I know how people get "here" now. I told her how I thought she got "here"..actually I told her that I knew the reasons she got "here" and she agreed. She said she bitched and nagged her previous husbands and that's why she was D'd. I told her the reason she bitched and nagged was because she was not getting what she needed from her M. She smiled and agreed with me.
About 3-4 weeks ago I was there and got my hair cut and this guy walks in. He sits down and makes himself at home, like he owns the place..he talks to her and then leaves. I asked if this was her EX. She said no, she was dating the guy but really wanted rid of him. Said she would never have what she wanted as long as he was around. I let her know he was like a tick..you could tell he was a "hanger on" type guy. I let her know that I thought no guy would ask her out if he was around..
I did not see him yesterday. he was not mentioned. I don't know if the tick is gone or not.
I wish only the best for her. I consider her a friend. She prays for me. She knows my sitch almost as well as you guys. She validates me and shows me empathy..it's nice to have a woman to talk to.
I know how we got "here" I wish I would have known earlier. I wish I could have figured it out earlier. I know how not to get here again..if there ever is an again..again..
yes, I would call it "flirtin" LOL
I hope I made her day..she deserves to have a good day. she's been through the ringer...the ringer is hard. I'm sure it's harder if you have 3 small kids and own your own business.
I knew what you were doing bro just alittle ribbin. Isn't it amazing how this has become 2nd nature? She sounds like it's been a hard road and the tick sounds like a real blood sucker nice guy! A pair of tweezers or a hot match would get him to back right out LOL!
I can totally relate to this the gal that cuts my hair just listens and gives opinions from a womans point of view, we have known each other for 25 + yrs so she knows me pretty well & just wants me happy, she thinks W just needs some time to put things into perspective. You are a very caring man and I'm sure she senses that and appreciates your insights.
You will have it again my friend, we all will, patience.
I have no doubts you made her day, cause you listened!
M fr TN Who cares about the stuff, anyway, it's just stuff! How was the haircut? Peace.
It's a 50/50 state. I would say we both care about the stuff. I'm gonna be honest here. This is the second time I'll be starting over and the 1st time I did not take stuff..well this time, if nothing else..I'm taking my 50%...I hate that it comes down to this but that the reality of the sitch I'm in..
I get it. And I didn't mean to sound flippant, guess you guys aren't used to my dry wit yet. My H says I'm too sarcastic, he may have a point. But it works for me! Methinks you aren't one to get sentimental about the stuff, anyway. You're right, you are absolutely entitled to your half. All I meant to say is that a year from now (I hope that) the EBay $$ won't bug you so much. For the record, I tried to post my Porn Star name on the correct thread, but it was locked. Too bad. I would be, of course, Tina Ondina, second choice would be Snicker Licker (my first cat). Peace.
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Hey MfT I thought I'd stop by and thank you for following my stich and see what was going on with you...F me!! All of this seems utterly absurd. I am so new at all of this and, truthfully, so very young; I wish I could offer you something more substaintial or wise advise. Know that I am so sorry that you have to go through this time and that you have my support. But from every thing I've read, this stuff won't beat you; bruise, batter, hurt, wound, sure, but not beat. Thanks again for supporting me during the time, we all can use it! B
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Now I don't know what they call this in Tenn., but here in the midwest we would call that a bit of flirtin. Are you sweet on this woman? HAHA! Hey doesn't hurt the PMA to test the waters of a 'hot' woman.
sweet on her..No, I would not say that. I would say I have empathy for her situation. She has 3 kids, a small business owner. No help from EX H with the kids. He's an abuser.
We talked R talk a bit, some about me, some about hers. I know more than I once did and think a little different. I know how people get "here" now. I told her how I thought she got "here"..actually I told her that I knew the reasons she got "here" and she agreed. She said she bitched and nagged her previous husbands and that's why she was D'd. I told her the reason she bitched and nagged was because she was not getting what she needed from her M. She smiled and agreed with me.
About 3-4 weeks ago I was there and got my hair cut and this guy walks in. He sits down and makes himself at home, like he owns the place..he talks to her and then leaves. I asked if this was her EX. She said no, she was dating the guy but really wanted rid of him. Said she would never have what she wanted as long as he was around. I let her know he was like a tick..you could tell he was a "hanger on" type guy. I let her know that I thought no guy would ask her out if he was around..
I did not see him yesterday. he was not mentioned. I don't know if the tick is gone or not.
I wish only the best for her. I consider her a friend. She prays for me. She knows my sitch almost as well as you guys. She validates me and shows me empathy..it's nice to have a woman to talk to.
I know how we got "here" I wish I would have known earlier. I wish I could have figured it out earlier. I know how not to get here again..if there ever is an again..again..
yes, I would call it "flirtin" LOL
I hope I made her day..she deserves to have a good day. she's been through the ringer...the ringer is hard. I'm sure it's harder if you have 3 small kids and own your own business.
Nice work Mike - Hey, I have these same conversations with women now and repeat the 'if I only knew then' speech often when talking about what's going on with my friends. Hindsight hey ???
Reading what you say tho, whatever happens, what we are all learning now, will only help us in future relationships. I imagine we would all be a great catch after learning this stuff.
M fr TN Who cares about the stuff, anyway, it's just stuff! How was the haircut? Peace.
It's a 50/50 state. I would say we both care about the stuff. I'm gonna be honest here. This is the second time I'll be starting over and the 1st time I did not take stuff..well this time, if nothing else..I'm taking my 50%...I hate that it comes down to this but that the reality of the sitch I'm in..
I get it. And I didn't mean to sound flippant, guess you guys aren't used to my dry wit yet. My H says I'm too sarcastic, he may have a point. But it works for me! Methinks you aren't one to get sentimental about the stuff, anyway. You're right, you are absolutely entitled to your half. All I meant to say is that a year from now (I hope that) the EBay $$ won't bug you so much. For the record, I tried to post my Porn Star name on the correct thread, but it was locked. Too bad. I would be, of course, Tina Ondina, second choice would be Snicker Licker (my first cat). Peace.
Nah I did not take it that way. I'm straight forweard and to the point. Nope, don;t really care about the stuff unless I brought it in or it was a gift. I'm more worried about the future. I don;t worruy about provisions for my D. To my credit I never missed a CS payment for my son and I won;t for my D. She will be well taken care of as far as money goes, i just nee to make sure she gets "me" in the prtocess also. I'm a much better dad now, older, wiser, smarter..better looking..a little egotistical at times..lol..the EBAy stuff does not bug me now..it's never bugged me, she can spend money any way she likes when the bills are paid..I'm not a money person but when you complain you never have money then you need to "look" at yourself and figure out why you don't have money...
By the way, you just got yourself out of the "dork Hole" with that Porno name..maybe I need to have a Porno Name thread #2 on down the road..
She seemed pleased with that.