The Wifey - Still working.

[Neilh23]

Kjo-
good for you!!!!!! well done. use this as motivation to keep your PMA. Amazing what that'll do for you. Look at how far you've come in the last couple of days!!

Good that you are seeing how the change in your behavior has affected your H. Awesome.

Wish i had the chance to get int eh shower with my W...LOL

tell us more about how the book would apply to us LBH's with WAW's... i'm interested

[The Wifey]

Neil, There's a section on how to train someone to give you what you need emotionally. It explains in detail how men and women think differently and how to reward what you want and how not to react to the bad stuff. I only just started reading and I can see that it would be beneficial for you.

Mind you, this is supposed to be a "for women's eyes only" type of book, but I think it has details about what a woman wants that would be to your advantage to read it.

[ndsmhelp]

Hey Kelly Jo
I see you popped in on my new thread. I have been keeping up with everyone the best I can, but just have not had much to say.

Going to try to touch base and update on my thread. You sound like you are doing good.

You and I sound very similar in the way we have that worry thing when we do not know where our spouses are or what they are doing.....my wife always told me I had some kind of "separation anxiety" when she, or even my daughter were not around. Like a dog that sits around whining, or chews things up when there master is gone....LOL.

I seem to have reached some sort of peace within myself the last couple of days and I am trying to go with it. I am finally trying to let things go at the pace that she dictates, rather than my own. Things are good, and we have some plans here and there during August, so that helps me relax a bit, knowing I have specific things to look forward to with her.

Will not highjack your thread though, so I will get over on mine and do some typing.

Take care....hang in there.

Hey, you mentioned drive-in, and I think you said one time you are in upstate NY. Can I ask where? or a close by city or town?

[The Wifey]

I live in Conesus and I usually go to the drive-in in Perry, The Silver Lake Drive-In. This weekend I will probably go see a movie if the weather cooperates. I'll check back on your thread, though I don't mind being hijacked.

[ndsmhelp]

We still have a drive-in near us...thought it was one of the few still around. It is actually the same one that my parents took us to when we were kids....pj's, blankets and pillows. One of my earliest memories is my dad carrying me out of the car, half asleep, to the house after the movie...wrapped in a blanket, with my pillow in my hand. My wife and I went the other night to see The Dark Night.

[The Wifey]

Cool - a date night. Have to get me one of those some time. : ) There I go again. We were just at a grad party and have been out to breakfast a couple weeks ago. I need to learn to be grateful for what I do have.

[ndsmhelp]

I need to learn to be grateful for what I do have.

There you go...my problem. My wife and I have the best times together still and I always want more.

Our problem since the bomb, though, is we let all the real good times revolve around alcohol. In the past we would go out once in a while, maybe have some drinks here and there at home. Now we have just got to a point where we over do it every chance we get, and of course during those times we are the perfect couple.

We are both getting a bit tired of it, so the last few days there has really been an effort to back off, and so far so good. last night we a very nice evening, cooking and relaxing, watching TV. It was quite a change from the norm and felt good.

[The Wifey]

One other important thing is my h told me that he has been holding Ginny off, not returning her phone calls. I didn't react or say anything, but I was jumping for joy inside. That is the one I was afraid was an EA.

He says he just sees her as a friend, but she used him to confide her marital problems and she is always emailing and asking him questions about our sitch, like "Are you still in the house?"

I'm so focused on his little nose nuzzle and sweet kisses this morning that I'm on top of the world. (On top of the mole-hill, but feels like a mountain. : ) )

[The Wifey]

Of course, I know she is teaching a class this week and unavailable, so I'm being realistic. He hasn't exactly appeared to hold back on any info to her in her email.

Tonight I do the walkthrough with the son at the house he will be living in and then we are going to grab a bite to eat. I'll get home when I get home I guess. : )

I have to take things slow, I know, but I'm still psyched about this morning. I can walk in the door with a smile on my face without a problem tonight. (I'm trying to store up the good feelings for the low days.)

[Neilh23]

Kjo-
i'm happy for you...just.........keep calm..patience...let him pull back a bit...it's ok....remember, both of you need to work on yourselves first.....keep that in mind...

i really am happy for you. Use it as motivation...seriously...but don't get too high...maintain.....an even keel. And the Dark KNight is awesome.....

drive in.....haven't been to one of those in years.....