You will never know what's going on within his mind. He will have to learn to talk from his heart to be heard by you. It's a boundary. You're saying no to drive by sex is another. Good job!
I have to wonder how long his next R is going to last after the passion wears off and he expects the woman to just put out whenever he is horny.
I hope you made it clear to him that you and him are done in the bedroom department. Still, I would not be surprised if he may attempt to talk you into one more roll in the hay so as to end the marriage in a happy way for old times sake.
I'm so thankful for all of you. I've said it before, but I don't know where I'd be if I had not found this place. The support is carrying me through my darkest moments.
I don't know if you all feel this way, too, but I feel like my life is being reduced to pennies on the dollar. The last four years of my life have been dedicated, consumed, completely focused on being the best wife I could be... and it was meaningless to the man which my energy and love was directed. M#ther F*cker. Sorry, guys. I am a crude, foul mouthed Ms Imp when I'm mad. I can't imagine how I would feel if I had dedicated 10, 15, 20, 25 years of my life to someone. I'm hopeful I would keep myself together, but if I feel this 'broken' after only 4 measly, piddly years, I don't know... What frightens me is knowing someone as honorable, classy, respected, kind and giving as my husband used to be could turn into what he's become, how can I ever trust another man to not do the same thing?
Last night I was busy packing things away. He commented that he has started to separate our accounts, blah, blah, blah. We were discussing the division of assets and I asked him what was in the locked box. His answer: "personal stuff." What a jerknosedic&wad F@cktard. It's a good thing I don't have a pistol, or that box would be blown to smithereens!
I must remember to take the high road and leave this marriage with my dignity in tact.
I'm feeling very bitter this morning. A good workout will help, I'm sure.
I LOVE YOU GUYS.
xoxoxoxoxoxxooxxooxxoooxoxoxo
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
how can I ever trust another man to not do the same thing?
ahh, sis..ya can't lump us all together..look at me..2x's..I'm a two timer..I have faith that there's a good "one" out there..surely there is.
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He commented that he has started to separate our accounts, blah, blah, blah. We were discussing the division of assets and I asked him what was in the locked box. His answer: "personal stuff." What a jerknosedic&wad F@cktard. It's a good thing I don't have a pistol, or that box would be blown to smithereens!
hey babe, I don't know how it is out there ont he left coast but here in Tennessee it's 50/50. If it's that way out there then guess what?? The box comes open..consult a L about the dikwad locked box.
Bitter, I'm an expert on bitter. I was bitter from my 1st for years...
Work on dropping the bitter if you can. Bitter=bad Girl..you're a lot better than bitter.
ahh, sis..ya can't lump us all together..look at me..2x's..I'm a two timer..I have faith that there's a good "one" out there..surely there is.
You are right. Thank you for the reminder.
Originally Posted By: M from Tennessee
Bitter, I'm an expert on bitter. I was bitter from my 1st for years...
Work on dropping the bitter if you can. Bitter=bad Girl..you're a lot better than bitter.
I should clarify that I was feeling momentarily bitter. Working out does wonders. Legs and chest today and I'm shaking from exerting myself instead of feeling the rage! I'm not one to hold a grudge, my husband is very lucky to have me for an ex-wife.
My attitude is soooo much better now.
Have a fabulous day and remind yourself of your fabulosity. =)
Oh, and California is 50/50, but if the stupid box is full of "personal stuff" then I don't care. What I care about is being respected. Flaunting a box locked with a padlock in my own home is not respectful. I do not need him, I do not need to know what kind of crap is too private for my eyes.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Oh, and California is 50/50, but if the stupid box is full of "personal stuff" then I don't care.
personal stuff?? personal stuff?? why lock up personal stuff? did you lock up your personal stuff? MY STBX never locked up her personal stuff. I never locked up my personal stuff, we are both in the middle of the chitt and we have not thrown locks on boxes..I call BS on horny boys personal stuff..ask a L about that box.
