Well, last night seemed to go pretty darn well! First, I got home and made a meatloaf and sloppy joe before needing to leave to bowl. H agreed that he can take the meatloaf out for me since it wouldn't be done before I had to leave. Then while at bowling, H was tm'ing me almost the whole night. Also called to ask me how to turn off my oven. lol I bowled a perfect 300 game too! It felt AWESOME! Then when I got home, H hung out a bit just talking about his job and how he's meeting a certain Prime Minister next week (can't remember from where) and how nervous he is about it. He also had to plan a huge appreciation party for today that was for like 400 people, so he was nervous about that too. For both of these things, I told him that he's great at this and everything will go completely wonderful. He thanked me for that. He's at work today from 4:30am - Midnight tonight due to this party....he has to be there for all shifts. That sucks! He did let me rub his shoulders when I offered (he said he was tense about everything). It was sooo nice to touch him again! AND, he wanted to see the pics from legoland and as I showed him the picks, he kept putting his body against mine. Wowser! One mind boggling thing was that he had a bag of garbage in his car. It was a tied up grocery bag. He told me it was just crap/garbage. Since it was garbage night for me, I asked him if he wanted me to toss it out for him. He told me not to worry about it but acted soooo weird. I said "what is it? used panties and condoms?" and he said "it's nothing like that" but was acting so weird! I'm still boggled by it! He also called on the way home to tell me he got pulled over because there's an Amber Alert out and the description was his car. He thought it was scary but cool that they're on top of the alerts like this.
Sooooo, what do you think? Lots of baby steps, me just being too over-thinking, or what?
Yes, it was a good night for sure. My heart has been pretty darn happy lately and this just added to it. I just wish he'd be my boyfriend again for goodness sake!
My H still has garbage bags with his clothes in them and they have been in the trunk for two years--over that now!!!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You know it's funny because I've been thinking about it all day because of how he was acting. Then, he emails me and says he's sorry for acting funny about that bag. That he had 2 empty beer cans in it from dad's and felt silly about it. So, as usual, it's not as bad as what I was thinking. And, I believe him on it too because his car smelled of beer. I even asked about the smell last night and he just sniffed the air and shrugged his shoulders. I don't know why he felt silly about that, but okay.
I surely hope this mood stays with me for a long time. My happiness level is very high right now!
Sounds like a kid who got caught with his hand in the cookie jar. LOL!!
Yeah, the three times my H moved out, he took all of his clothes except for a suit jacket. He has the bulk of his stuff in the trunk in plastic bags, personal things such as our bills/CD's and other things locked up in his office at work, and his work clothes and some casual clothes at that bat cave he is living at.
I suppose if that was his permanent residence, he would have moved it all in that bat cave.
They do some pretty strange things.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Okay, good day yesterday went downhill. I have no idea what to think of this, if it's true feelings or what.....
All was good yesterday, went to C in the evening. She told me that she believes it's time to let H know we need to talk and during that talk I need to flat out ask him what he's thinking about this M and if he's planning on coming back or not. I made sure to ask her if she thinks this is going to backfire, scare him off, etc. She told me that if it scares him off then he's not coming back. This lady has MLC listed as one of her specialties.
H happened to call last night around 9pm when he had a free moment from work. We chatted for a few, very friendly, good convo and then he talked to D for about 5-10 mins. She put me back on the phone and I asked him what he though about us meeting for lunch again to talk. He said "I told you we would, YOU cancelled on ME the last time and now I have to reschedule it is all. I asked him "that's what I'm saying, do you know when you'd like to get together so we can both go over things?" He said he didn't know with next week being busy. I asked him if he's done with this M and he said "Yep, I'm done. Bye." and hung up on me. He turned off his phone and hasn't had it on since.
Last week when we were supposed to meet, he told me that this lunch date was a good thing to get us together again and talking. I asked him if he's going to talk about divorce, then let's not make it a lunch date since I didn't want to come back to work upset. He said it's not that since that's not what he wants. Now he's saying he's done???
Should I take it as he's really done then? Or are these just emotions from being stressed from work, etc?
Are you comfortable with having that R talk with your H? I don't agree with C's assessment that if it scares him, he is not coming back. He may not be ready for this topic of conversation and/or to come home at this time.
We can't force our spouses to do anything. You have a lot to think about.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
