But from what I read, the apologies that should be made are not related to politics.
I accept that as their point of view and do not seek to diminish it in any way.
In my world it is very related to my political ideology. Even though many may disgree - that they are well within their rights to do so.
I have heard everything I need to hear here, in the social women's gatherings in my neighborhood and in the media to persuade me to change my affiliation that in my mind (right or wrong) is tied to proferring a full and absolute crow eating apology.
And really I understand the apology is all that really matters to the posters here - the my political ideology and angst regarding this change is nothing but nonsensical rambling on my part.
I really do get it - the apology is all that matters here. The why is irrelevant... It is a strange situation - the people I keep in touch with from the BB in the real world aren't asking for the apology. It is the people that are imaginary and will remain imaginary. I could easily just do it w/o meaning it and no one would know any better. But that would be even more disrespectful wouldn't it?
I really genuinely would like to hear how you feel an appropriate sincere apology should be worded.
I think you're educated enough that you don't really need my help with this.
I'm too frustrated and, at this point, have wasted enough of my day on this.
Do whatever you feel is right. The rest of us will deal with it. However, I "do" think that you know you're in the wrong in regards to some of the things you've posted (and I'm not talking politics) and I "do" think that you feel an apology is deserved. But.....you're just too stubborn, proud, whatever, to actually do it.
In other words - none of you are important in my world. You don't deserve an apology.
AG - you are a total social misfit. You behave like a toddler in a sandbox, making us BEG you for an apology when in truth, none of us really gives a rat's ass about you. We want you to leave. Because your are very unkind to the fine people on this bb, the women in your neighbourhood whom you talk about behing their backs and everyone who is not you.
That is why you are alone.
If you cared about anyone you would never have said the horrible things you did and you would care enough not to even have to think about how to respond. When you are wrong -you apologize. Right away.
But you like the attention your little game gathers. So look - all over your thread. Other than the endless droning of yourself - you have one line from someone else who you communicate with by email. The rest is all garbage you generated.
And really I understand the apology is all that really matters to the posters here - the my political ideology and angst regarding this change is nothing but nonsensical rambling on my part.
I really do get it - the apology is all that matters here. The why is irrelevant... It is a strange situation - the people I keep in touch with from the BB in the real world aren't asking for the apology. It is the people that are imaginary and will remain imaginary. I could easily just do it w/o meaning it and no one would know any better. But that would be even more disrespectful wouldn't it?
AG,
I rarely post anymore but I do read the Board frequently as I know and have also met many people here, you included. As I recall, we met three times - twice in VA and once on a camping trip. At one time we were friends and you even invited my children and I to come to visit you for a weekend. I only state this to show that I am not some imaginary DBr to you as we have met in real life.
What I'm trying to say is that you have met many people from this Board and you have admitted frequently that you like none of the DBrs you've ever met. You have personally attacked me for no reason that I could see in past posts that you have made to my sister. We have all made mistakes and most of us have learned from them and moved on. You have never apologized to me nor, as I've been told from past DBrs who I've kept in touch with, have you ever apologized to them. And personally, I don't want an apology from you as I know for a fact that you would never be sincere in making one to me. I'm okay with that.
But you continue to come on this Board and be antagonistic to people. You attack people who are different from you. If someone chooses to be a SAHM, what does that matter to you? If you choose to obtain your degree and become a lawyer, what does that matter to me? We all have our own lives and try to make the best of our circumstances. Sometimes things happen in our lives that are not of our choosing and we have to deal with them the best way that we can. There's an old saying that goes something like "Never criticize someone else until you've walked a mile in their shoes". You have no idea of what anyone else on this Board has had to deal with in their personal lives just as none of us have any idea what you've had to deal with. And yet I've never seen anyone else from this Board (or in person for that matter) put you down for the choices that you have made in your life. Why do you feel the need to put others down for the choices that they have made? What do you gain from it?
I feel sorry for you because it appears that after all this time, you haven't moved on nor have you found the happiness that comes from realizing that the anger you show towards other people is a heavy burden to carry. I hope for your sake that you someday come to that realization and become a happier person.
Oh, and as for your request to Qoe (whom I haven't met in real life but not from lack of trying - Someday Jill!) to genuinely explain to you what a sincere apology would be, if you were sincerely apologetic you would know the anwswer to that yourself.
I am splitting off and locking part of this thread. This stuff is NOT what we're here for.
Primarily this is a board to use Michele's tools to save marriages. In the event the marriage isn't saved, this forum is to offer support for surviving the divorce and beginning anew.
While some amount of disagreements naturally occur in the forums and working out of board 'friendships' is useful....this goes on over and over here.
What may be useful is for EACH OF YOU to look at the role you've played in these discussions, the relational themes that come up....not the actual topics (political, etc).
There are other boards that encourage these kinds of discussions.
Last edited by sgctxok; 08/20/0811:51 PM.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
