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I am reading Hendrix:"Keeping the love you find" and highly recommend it. It is deeper and taking longer to read than most of the self help books I have been reading.

Good quote from it "In order to be loved, you must first become a lover" and "BEING the right partner is more important than PICKING the right partner"

Patience, Forgiveness, Hope, Respect, Faith, True giving, Empathy, Validation,Prayer,Positive thoughts,Blessings.....and lots of hugs!


"What is best for my kids is best for me"
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Ready, could you offer a friend in need some advice and come over to my thread for a moment?


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Thank you Ready, I just needed to not feel so alone.


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Hey Ready..

It's amazing how you make it work.

How are you juggling not missing her but still having hope for the marriage?

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((( Ready ))) thanks for missing me when I'm not here ! You are becoming an advanced listener ! ttys

How far are you into Hendrix ? I need to go back & read him again, now that I have had more healing.

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Gee Ready, if your wife only knew how many women were begging for your attention here, I bet she would be running back to your arms...;)

Gypsy has a good point though, how are you able to have hope without missing her?

And by the way, thank you so much for all your wonderful words during my short fall. Dont worry, I took a couple of days to wollow but now I'm back. Thanks again.


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Originally Posted By: Gypsy
...It's amazing how you make it work....How are you juggling not missing her but still having hope for the marriage?
By detaching. Accepting where I am. Knowing where I want to be. Understanding where She is. Doing the work to make ME a better person. Praying she will move forward. Being patient and forgiving. LISTENING to Gypsy,Cookie,BH and others and then processing as much as I can. The books are helping. AND having Faith.

*HUGS*


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Originally Posted By: smartcookie
((( Ready ))) thanks for missing me when I'm not here ! You are becoming an advanced listener ! ttys
Glad to see you back. Hope the break was good for you.

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How far are you into Hendrix?
p259/303. This book is very deep and is taking me a long time to get though it and I have skipped the exercises. I want to go though it again and do the exercises.

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I need to go back & read him again, now that I have had more healing
As I was reading parts of the book, I thought of you and your H....Helping each other heal childhood wounds....

*HUGS*


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Originally Posted By: brokenhearted
Gee Ready, if your wife only knew how many women were begging for your attention here, I bet she would be running back to your arms...;)
Give out what you want to receive. \:\)

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And by the way, thank you so much for all your wonderful words during my short fall
What are friends for \:\) Glad to do it.

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.. Dont worry, I took a couple of days to wollow but now I'm back...
I was worried. I am not so worried right now...

*HUGS and prayers*


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Originally Posted By: Ready2Change
I am reading Hendrix:"Keeping the love you find" and highly recommend it. It is deeper and taking longer to read than most of the self help books I have been reading.

Good quote from it "In order to be loved, you must first become a lover" and "BEING the right partner is more important than PICKING the right partner"



I really like that quote. It's so true.

How do you balance everything now ? You seem very disciplined as far as making time for all the things that fill your own love bucket and being such a great dad.


M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
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