Letting God Take Control Part 18

[plentyhope]

Hi all,

My previous thread locked.

I am starting this thread with something encouraging:

Yesterday, I sent my H a funny email and he loved it. He asked if I still had a problem in the basement and mentioned that we never finished painting it. I emailed back "Yes" and he asked if he could drop by yesterday. I nearly fell off my chair!

The visit went well. He did the work and was very sweet. He did the work all by himself because I wasn't supposed to breathe in the fumes.

He slept over, something he hadn't done in a LONG time (many months). I praise God and thank Him that my H made the contact. W

While he was working, I prayed the Power of Praying Wife prayers (most of the book) and the Marriage Prayer and Hedge of Thorns.

Then this morning, I realized that he must have read the post-it notes I left for myself in the bathroom:
1) Ask God to give you a fresh supply of patience each day
2) For now, turn the other cheek and walk the extra mile
3) Paint a picture of you and H together again when everything looks bleak - goal

The "worst" one is (3) so I don't know if he got put off. He must have read the note when he took a shower last night, but didn't show signs of getting put off. Unless he read it this morning... I don't know for sure.

He was very affectionate last night, and held my hand while sleeping. This morning he said Good morning and hugged me.

[Imageer]

PH, this all sounds very good. I'm happy for you.

Would he not have used the bathroom at some point before he stayed the night and saw your notes? Yet he stayed the night anyway.

If he didn't say anything and didn't go running for the hills and was still affectionate to you, I wouldn't spend too much time stressing about it.

[happynow]

PH!

That sounds great!!! I'm glad that things went so well with you & H last night. I agree with Imageer, if he was still affectionate I wouldn't worry about it.

((((HUGS)))

[plentyhope]

Hey imageer,
Thanks for being happy for me.

You might be right. When he came out of the bathroom, he gave me a nice hug.

I hope you are doing well. I did read your post about how your W commented on your house looking good.

My H also commented on the house looking clean and good. Thanks to glamgirl pointing me to the FlyLady program.

[plentyhope]

Hey nlt,

Thanks for being so sweet. I hope you are hanging in there. Hugs to you too.

[happynow]

PH,

I need to get on the Flylady! I read a little about it but just haven't taken the time to read more & get it done.

Any more on your sitch with H?

(((HUGS)))

[glamgirl]

Wow PH this sounds very encouraging. What I wouldn't give for my h to spend the night. To me this is awesome.

I wouldn't worry if he saw the post its. They were all goal oriented and positive.

Just live your life for now!

[plentyhope]

Hey nlt,

Thank you! Let me know how you like FlyLady. Once you shine your kitchen sink, you'll get hooked. It's amazing. You'll feel heaps better about your house.

No news yet from my H. I am ok, though. I still keep praying as much as ever. Learning lots of faith related things - forgiveness, love and respect, quiet time, prayer.

(((nlt)))

[plentyhope]

Hey glam,

Thanks for reassuring me. I think you're right about not worrying. I think God meant for him to see it. I honestly did try to put away anything he might be sensitive about, but somehow missed the note.

I keep praying, business as usual.

[happynow]

PH,

I haven't gotten around to flylady yet but I'm going to try it! What little I've read I think it sounds great!

I'm like you, I'm trying to forgive & keep praying. I think you are right & God meant for your H to see that note! It doesn't seem like it bothered him.

((((PH))))