Now what???

[needlove]

So I've filed and the paperwork is going through. My question is: NOW WHAT??

He doesn't love me, that bomb was dropped last Easter. After a year and a half of dbing and trying to make this marriage work, I'm left with doing something I didn't EVER want to do. Final straw came when he left our D6 with 4 teenagers (2 were her half-brothers) in the house while he went out to a club with his friends.

So I ask you all who have been in this sitch, What happens now? Pitfalls? Peaks? Valleys? What am I to expect?

How do you handle the guilt of taking someone's father away? I figure we will be enrolled in family counselling soon, but I think it will be just her and I. He has rejected any type of therapy so far.

[Stillhope]

You don't take the father away - you promote as much and the best relationship between them that you can.

There are lots of variiables. The divorce can be somewhat smooth or very very nasty. Depends on the two people involved. Unless your wealthy expect to be very broke for a while. Single parenting is tough but lots of people do it.


Just curious here - what is the problem with leaving D6 with her teenage 1/2 brothers ? I have with my D from age five and still do three years later. I never thought of it as any kind of problem.

[needlove]

Hey Stillhope. Thanks for responding. I do plan to promote their relationship. I want her to see him as much as possible. Problem is I know he loves her, he just doesn't have/make time for her.

Youngest step-son in a juvenile detention center. He comes home on weekends for visits. I must say that he is really good with sister. Much better than older brother.

Oldest step-son has an anger management issues. Teases D6 until she cries then calls her a crybaby and laughs. His girlfriend was in the house, apparently in his room. I didn't know this until later. He's very controlling of her and you can't say anything to him/them about it. And a strange boy I had never meet before was in the house.

4 teenagers left alone? Last time that happened in my house the cops were called. I'm very nervous about that. Cops called, daughter taken away...that type of thing.

So, I can plan on being broke and trying to foster a better relationship between father/daughter. Any other thoughts? I want to be prepared in so many ways...