I'm struggling with feeling like his 'romantic' energies have been exhausted on ow, and that it is back to boring ole' routine with the dependable, strong wifey... sigh
Quote: I'm struggling with feeling like his 'romantic' energies have been exhausted on ow, and that it is back to boring ole' routine with the dependable, strong wifey... sigh
Slowly -- I struggled with something similar...in my sitch h's EA with ow seemed all about "communication" (emails, IM-ing, etc)...h has never IM'd me in his life!
What could you do to kick it up a notch? knock you guys out of a routine?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Re-visiting a questions that seemed beyond impossible a month ago
Quote: What could you do to kick it up a notch? knock you guys out of a routine?
As strange as it seems, acting as if seems to be helping. Yesterday, while we were at the mall, I gave him a hug and a quick kiss, right on the escalator. He initially pulled off, saying, we never do things like this in public. My response was that just because we never used to, it didn't mean we never should The rest of the evening, he was clutching my hand as we strolled in and out of dinner, and then some Xmas shopping. Seems like he is waiting for my cues, so providing I pace them slowly enough, we should be able to turn this tanker around
Quote: As strange as it seems, acting as if seems to be helping.
it does seem strange that it would help doesn't it! but then there must be some truth to that old saying...smile and the world smiles back...cry and you cry alone.
think about it...when your out and about and you see a person smiling brightly, no matter what kind of day you're having it makes you want to smile...BUT when you see a person looking glum and gloomy you just want to keep on going...it almost drains some of your energy.
something that makes piecing difficult is the absurd notion that eventually the m will be pieced..."piecing the marriage back together" can leave one with the impression that eventually all the pieces will be in place and the m will be solid ready for the puzzle glue...
ah the puzzle glue...will it hold all the pieces indefinetly? what is the glue?
the glue is those things we do to help the pieces fit together but as you know with glue over time it dries out and looses it's adhesiveness and more must be applied to secure the puzzle...
maintenance?
you betcha!
can it be done?
sure!
an open mind, an accepting mind, the puzzle of a m will never be complete because all the pieces will never be there...sure the basic picture will be there but there will always be scenery etc to add to the puzzle as time goes on.
back to basics
don't expect each day to be better than the next, make each day better than the next.
I just joined piecing, although it is in pieces this week!
I really want my M to work but H is in wicked MLC..My posts are actually comical in the MLC forum.
humor is a great thing but be careful to realize at times what it masks.
Did you have another person involved with your sitch?
YUP! h had ow for roughly 2 1/2 years!
I am going to read more of your post!
I warn you I have good days and bad and am not afraid to hide the bad so...yes some of my threads are enlightening but some of them are just down right scary and negative.
The rest of the evening, he was clutching my hand as we strolled in and out of dinner, and then some Xmas shopping. Seems like he is waiting for my cues, so providing I pace them slowly enough, we should be able to turn this tanker around 
