Ready2Change (8) - Child Family Investigator

[Ready2Change]

Maybe love,patience,compliments,surprises.....

[Gypsy]

Okie doke... how are you going to do those things?

[No Longer BH]

Ready....been missing you. Sounds like you had a really great Halloween. Its my favorite holiday as well.

I got a question for you....is you W still with OM? Just wondering.

[Ready2Change]

I do not know if there is OM or not. I did not go snooping......

HUGS

[Gypsy]

*hugs'n'glugs*

[Ready2Change]

Goal!!

One of my original "small signs of positive change" in the R was W says "good night". She said that to me tonight.

W also invited me and my dad to S8 Birthday party at her house. First time I been in house since I moved out August 1.

Still no eye contact or talking but it was nice being at the party (opps forgot my camera)...



I also went out last night and had a great time. I did drink more than I really intended. It did relax me. I need to make sure that drinking doesn't become a habit.

[Gypsy]

Hey Ready!

That's great news. What other small signs of positive change are you looking for.. have you received from your wife?

What small signs (or big) signs of positive change have you had... AND

What small (or big) signs of positive change have others commented to you about?



*hugs*

[No Longer BH]

Hey Ready, have you made a list of small goals? What are they? I know when I thought STBXH might be trying to come back I had a list so I could watch for small signs of progress. The key is to not be completely focused on the signes because they can consume you. You sound like you are doing really well and staying strong. Glad to hear there was some progress with you and your wife.

[Ready2Change]

It is very interesting. Tonight was another one of those "Family School Events". I don't worry about W any more and don't let her affect me. It is a very good feeling. Even better, I expect her to be "normal" and that is how she is (or at least how I perceive her)....

Self fulfilling prophesy....

Another "Family School Event" tomorrow....Still fells good to be "a family"

I have the kids on Thanksgiving day....Going to my dads house....

[Ready2Change]

As far as the questions about the changes and the baby steps.....

I can notice the small changes, but I haven't set too many goal and am not really doing much work on R right now. I am patiently waiting for W to let go of the anger.....Looks like she is.....