A in Ohio - Dig Deep

[A in Ohio]

[quote=breakawayDon't forget this A. In the end she is wrecking herself more than she can ever damage you. You've shown incredible strength through this whole process. Hang on to that, we're here for you. [/quote]

Thanks for the support. Why is she doing what she is doing?

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[quote=breakawayDon't forget this A. In the end she is wrecking herself more than she can ever damage you. You've shown incredible strength through this whole process. Hang on to that, we're here for you.

Thanks for the support. Why is she doing what she is doing? [/quote]

Well, I wish I could tell you. I don't know, A. SHE doesn't know is probably why you can't figure it out. She's got some real problems. All you can do right now is deal with her actions. I would expect some fireworks if you go completely dark and then sign. I think she will have no clue as to how to handle that. BUT, the only thing you should concern yourself with right now is yourself and the kids. Follow your plan, regardless of whatever craziness she comes up with next. Expect craziness, and then you won't be so shaken up when it happens.

You'll have to decide if this good advice or not.

[carpenter54]

A

My W is showing some of the same things rite now. She has her "true love" but is also seeking out another guy she knows. Her favorite thing to say of course.....she is strong and can do it all by herself!!! It's to much to think about honestly....so I don't. Do you have anyone you can verbalize this stuff to? Typing here is one thing....actually saying the words to someone helps me a lot....even if that person has no answers to give..it relieves ALOT of weight. I "chat" with my mom about those kinds things about once a week.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

A--

Add another set of prayers going up for you and your family from The Old Dominion. I know how hard this, knowing that the kids are being affected, DESPITE what our spouses are trying to convince themselves.

Reflect, pray, and let God show you your path to take in all of this.

SMW

[A in Ohio]

Everyone - Thanks for you prayers. I really need them right now.

W sent me a text last night that she missed our family and really wants to come home but she's scared and that she will always love me. That was out of the blue. I didn't reply. She WANTS ME TO CHASE HER.

Then I get a text today that the kids want to see me before I leave on Monday. I wrote back that today was packed but I was available tonight or tomorrow. W has plans Sunday and is going to a party tonght and she GOT MAD. She punishes me for everything. Well, just when she doesn't get her way. Did the kids really want to see me or did she need a baby sitter. Probably both.

Hell, even if I wanted to reconcile, she is so messed up that I can't even 180. I would have to do a constant 360.

[VeronicaV]

A,

I wish I had some great advice for you. I do think you are right to go dark and let things settle down.

Hang in there and know we are all here for you.
Beth

[A in Ohio]

Now she is just firing off insults and I'm not responding....

"You never changed"
"I asked u what u were doing today...but u r too busy for us" - Too busy for us? I thought the kids wanted to see me? Or you had nothing else to do.

There are more but why waste my time typing rubbish.

She wants me to chase... ain't gonna happen although that would be a 180.

Any input would be greatly appreciated.

[carpenter54]

My advice??

Couple Capn&Cokes? Humor....sorry

Wow is all I really have to say. I also get the rubbish talk....but not like you are

[A in Ohio]

Carp - Absolute and Red Bull fixed it last night.

At this point I feel like a run away husband. I don't want any part of her until I figure this crap out.

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I don't want any part of her until I figure this crap out.

And that's your RIGHT!

She's out of control right now. She's the one doing 360's. What could you possibly say to this woman that would satisfy her right now?

Dark dark dark. Unless you want to say, I can't talk about any of this right now. Then Dark.