Also found out that W found an boyfriend from 1193 that she is trying to hook back up w/.
Wow, your wife is <old>.
Sorry, couldn't resist trying to bring some humor to your day.
So does one of PA's hurt more than the other? Seems like you might have guessed about BFF's brother, plus that one seems to be 'old history' by now. What about old boyfriend? Is that one ongoing?
Try not to burn bridges right now if you can avoid it. This doesn't have to be a deal-breaker unless you want it to be. I truly believe that W's recent escalation behavior's will pass if you keep distancing.
Give yourself the luxury of time to process this. Go dark and process. If you still think it's a deal breaker by Nov 26th, then you have an easy out. But if you don't, you will still have options.
My condolences for your 'violation'. That sucks, my friend..
My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1
Hey A - so sorry to hear what you are going through. Just caught up on your thread. Is this a dealbreaker for you? If not, be very careful how you handle. Is Puppy around???
Strength and Honor.
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"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
So does one of PA's hurt more than the other? Seems like you might have guessed about BFF's brother, plus that one seems to be 'old history' by now. What about old boyfriend? Is that one ongoing?
Good question. BFF's brother really hurt because she lied about it. In the past, BFF wants W to hook up with him (about a yr ago) and W sai "I don't even like him". That may have been true at the time but she sure learned to like him.
Two Affairs seems to hurt less...Now as I see it, W is looking to replace me w/ anything she can. She is so empty as a person that she is sick. Did I do this to her? Maybe a little but she obvoiusly has deep deep issues.
I will never confront he w/ the information as it will make it easier on her. When she lied and told me she was 'just talking' to OM1, she felt better about it after she told me.
I am going very dark....and I will sign on 11/24.
This is a deal breaker for me.... that is how I feel right now.
It will be intersting to hear what Puppy has to say.
Two Affairs seems to hurt less...Now as I see it, W is looking to replace me w/ anything she can. She is so empty as a person that she is sick. Did I do this to her? Maybe a little but she obvoiusly has deep deep issues.
Don't forget this A. In the end she is wrecking herself more than she can ever damage you. You've shown incredible strength through this whole process. Hang on to that, we're here for you.
