It used to be G40 which is Girl 40 years old. I have changed it to GF40 which is now Girl Friend 40. I'm now am not looking to date anyone else other than her (likewise for her) so you could say we are boyfriend and girlfriend. Life is treating her, our kids and me very good right now.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
GF40, her D4, my dids and I had a fun weekend - swimming, going to a STBXW's friend's Thai restaraunt, slumber party for kids, day trip to the beach where we used sleds to slide down a big sand dune and then we had a delicious casino buffet on the way home. The kids were screaming with laughter when we were blazing down the dunes nearly out of control. It was a beautiful day at the beach for Oregon in November. Last night, my mom and step-father took all of us out for barbeque (GF40 and her daughter too).
After STBXW returned S8 back to me from Chinese class yesterday, S8 told me that his mom asked him a lot of questions about our weekend. As he said... "You name it and she asked it". STBXW does not seem to be very detached from me living my life with the kids independent from her.
Things sound really good for you and G40. I'm very happy for you, my friend.
Keep moving forward and your kids will see you are happy which will help them to cope w/ things as well. If you are unhappy, they will be affected and unhappy too.
It is funny how it works out, but instead of our doing things to make them happy, we need to instead do things to make ourselves healthy and happy for us. If we do this, we'll have much more of a positive impact than if we try to do it the other way around.
Good for you. You've been an inspiration, so I can still say you are, my man!
I think you are on to something there RTL....may have to work on being more happy. Not sure however, if I would introduce a new person to D7. But everyone has there own timelines on this.
After STBXW returned S8 back to me from Chinese class yesterday, S8 told me that his mom asked him a lot of questions about our weekend. As he said... "You name it and she asked it". STBXW does not seem to be very detached from me living my life with the kids independent from her.
Hey- Been a while, so I figured I'd catch up on people... :-) Sounds like you're doing well, or at the very least, far better than your STBXW is doing. It's interesting the way she has responded to you living your own life and moving on.
Anyhow, it's great that your kids are integrating so well into your new life... You've done a great job maintaining a stable environment for them considering all that your W has done over the years. Hopefully I can do as well as you one day! :-)
I've found myself being too unhappy around my D5 and it is beginning to affect her. So, my comments on Kerry's situation are a complete reflection of my inactions and how they are affecting my D in relation to how Kerry has handled himself in his sitch.
Kerry hasn't seemed to miss a beat during his entire experience. I've got a ways to go to catch up w/ him, but I'm looking at his sitch and trying to figure how to integrate what he's teaching into my own.
