Like in every friendship, if one party makes all the effort for a prolonged period of time, they get exhausted....that is where I am. In spite of all that has transpired, I know myself...should something happen, I will be there....I guess I do not hold a grudge, On the lack of forgiveness = bitterness, I am sure it will dissipate with time and the realization that we no longer have the same "morals".....maybe never had... Kerry...sorry for the hijack.
W asked me on the phone this morning if I had plans on Sunday. I told her I did, but what does she need. She said that she wants to talk, to which I said, "we are talking right now - what's up"? She wants to have a long face to face about kids and other stuff. I told her why not after her work today or early on Sunday - she will think about it.
I have a suspicion that her counselor may want her to get things off her chest, but it could be something else. I do know that I am not on pins and needles like before when she said she wanted to talk. There is not much she can say to affect me anymore.
There is also the possibility that she might want to tell me how to live my life. She wont get very far if she comes into a talk with that attitude.
We are supposed to have our divorce judgement filed by Dec 1. I could not convince her during the 8 months I tried to get her back. I find it strange how they change when they see the writing on the wall.
Mike - I think Carol King said it best... "It's too late baby now. It's too late". I would not have started dating had I had any thoughts about reconciliation.
GF40 has had her heart broken before and I dont intent do be the cause of any further heart breaks for her - she is so deserving of a loving relationship. Her family may still be the cause of a breakup between us. The first big test is this Sunday when I go to a pre-Thanksgiving feast at her Lutheran church. Her father is the minister and she has a very large family and congregation their. I am not religious and I am not Vietnamese like her family and church. The mixed race relationship I dont see as that big of a hurdle (one brother has a caucasian wife), however, I worry about how accepting they will be of a non-religious person as myself. I only hope they can see that GF40, her daughter and I are very happy right now.
Mike - I think Carol King said it best... "It's too late baby now. It's too late". I would not have started dating had I had any thoughts about reconciliation.
ROTFLMAO.. I know where you are brother..I'm talking about the ex..you think she's wanting to talk about you two or she's just taking your temperature..I know you don't care one way or another..I just find it all amazing..it seems to happen once "they" see how we are moving on..
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I dont know what she is going to talk about. If it gets into an area that makes me uncomfortable, I can always change the topic and start talking about the Trail Blazers. Give Oden a bit more time to get rid of the clumsy feet and the Blazers are going to be a dynasty for years to come with a superstar like Roy and quality hungry young players like Aldrich, Fernandez, Rodriquez, Outlaw.... Their last game was a 116-74 blowout of the Bulls.
I dont know what she is going to talk about. If it gets into an area that makes me uncomfortable, I can always change the topic and start talking about the Trail Blazers. Give Oden a bit more time to get rid of the clumsy feet and the Blazers are going to be a dynasty for years to come with a superstar like Roy and quality hungry young players like Aldrich, Fernandez, Rodriquez, Outlaw.... Their last game was a 116-74 blowout of the Bulls.
KerryK....I think you are doing great. There is a tendency here on this board, I think, to portray this scenario of:
W bombs H
W leaves H
W dorks OM
W gets bored of the new dorkelhose
lightening bolt comes down and strikes W
W says 'woe is me' and comes running back to H
H now gets W peeling grapes for him
All this occurs in a "3-5" year span...SOOOOOO..if you hold out that long, you'll win your prize back.
The classic phrase is true. People don't change. Not without Herculean efforts. Efforts that would be clearly visible.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
