Yeah - no bird cooking for me. We will be eating a Thanksgiving buffet at an indian casino (Lucky Eagle) on the way.
My uncle used to have the biggest turkey farm in the state and it was fun and educational staying there for a couple weeks during the summer as kids. Them domestic turkeys are quite the stupid, but delicious animal.
Got an email from my L of a fax from W's L. Just some minor changes they want to the final judgment document. My L will get it edited and I will go in and sign it on Monday. Then they will get it to W's L so she can sign and then it will go to the court to be made official.
I know it's probably a strange feeling what you are going through right now. It was for me.
I was just thinking about how impressed I've been by you over the past year reading about your situation and the way you handled everything. I agree with BBJ, you have dignity. I'm impressed.
Today is the first day of the rest of your life.....
I had a nice trip with the kids to Ocean Shores Washington. The weather was not that great until today, but we still had a good time. The highlight of the trip was seeing 3 jeeps nearly get washed away into the angry ocean by a sneaker wave next to the jetty. The kids got a couple buckets of clam shells, rocks, sand dollars and stinky rotting crab parts to bring home. I dumped the crab parts at the first rest area.
On the drive back today, STBXW called from my house where she was packing up some of her things. She asked me if she could have a second chance. She then said that she will never be able to change her anger issues or her tight faced frowning looks. And she felt that I promised that I was going to wait until after a D before I saw someone else. She did not say anything like she loved me or why she wanted a second chance. I told her it was too late and I will not be the cause of anyone elses heartbreak (GF40 and her daughter). I refuse to give my kids hope only to have them dashed again. They seem pretty well settled with the way things are now.
So strange that the day before I go in to sign my final divorce document that she finally asks me to give the marriage another chance. I get the feeling that a lot of this is because she hears from the kids how much fun GF40, her daughter, myself and they all have together. I wonder if the luster of the rich 68 year old boyfriend has run its course.
She had no reason, plan or promises - just asked for a second chance. As usual, I get a feeling of secrecy on her part.
It did not take any strength at all. Basically, I had to choose between an angry woman that shows me no love or a happy go lucky kind hearted woman who believes in a happily forever after.
Double WOW!!! Kerry, I am sad that she was too late. But I am glad you feel sure about your decision. Dont know what else to say... K
As far as reasons are concerned, it could be that the luster has run its course but it could also be that she realised she loves you. I bet it wasnt easy for her to even say what she said...
On the drive back today, STBXW called from my house where she was packing up some of her things. She asked me if she could have a second chance. She then said that she will never be able to change her anger issues or her tight faced frowning looks. And she felt that I promised that I was going to wait until after a D before I saw someone else. She did not say anything like she loved me or why she wanted a second chance. I told her it was too late and I will not be the cause of anyone elses heartbreak (GF40 and her daughter). I refuse to give my kids hope only to have them dashed again. They seem pretty well settled with the way things are now.
So strange that the day before I go in to sign my final divorce document that she finally asks me to give the marriage another chance. I get the feeling that a lot of this is because she hears from the kids how much fun GF40, her daughter, myself and they all have together. I wonder if the luster of the rich 68 year old boyfriend has run its course.
and who on here saw that coming??
it matters not her reasons. What matters is she has taken no action. She has spoken words. I would have thought that if she really wanted back in the game she would have been taking concrete actions for a few weeks now by saying..Hey Kerry..I just started IC working on my issues or she could have been talking this (reconciliation)weeks ago instead of working on a settlement with her lawyer..It sounds like reality has laid the "smack down" on her..she's floundering. She may feel like she needs to be rescued...
Well my friend, that is the true test of detachment... The fact that we all think that takes some serious strength and you feel it came easy tells me you are truly onto a new chapter if not a new book. Good for you....and if I can be brutally honest, I am kind of happy about your decision....someone who has treated you the way she has in the last year or so does NOT deserve a man like you.
