So you don't know who is sitting your kids? I would go check that out yourself. For all you know, she will have her OM do it or a friend of his that needs a job.
I see what you are saying, but how do you balance that with being a responsible person?
In my situation, my #1 goal is to get primary care of my S. I can't be out at the bars, partying w/ women, and being irresponsible.... and I wouldn't want to be unless I could see instant success at restoring my marriage.
Seems impossible...
I don't mean this to be rude or mean, but if a person can't figure out how to balance having fun with responsibility, then I can see why you called yourself a controlling "stick in the mud." Is it possible that your wife became "bored" and wanted some excitement in her life to balance out the stress of working and having a new child?
One of the biggest mistakes we make is to stop having fun and laughter with our spouses and going out and having fun.....
I don't think it is in any way irresponsible to show your WS that you are enjoying life to the fullest.
Work hard, play hard. You CAN do both and be just as responsible as the person who sits home and fails to see that he or she is boring his spouse to death because of not enough fun, laughter and spontaneity in the relationship.
Women are attracted to men who know how to balance fun with responsibility and become bored with those who can't, don't or won't.
Been staying at my brother's house to get out a little and save some money.... I like going over there because they are all talkers and help me get my mind off stuff. I have the kids tonight so I'm looking forward to that.
This weekend is packed with social stuff. That should help too. You never know what might happen.
W stopped by to drop the kids clothes off. Not sure why she can't leave them at the sitters. She was over for 10 seconds and left. I didn't even see her as I was in the kitchen.
W emailed me this morning... "I talked to my lawyer. I have set an appointment at 4:30 on Monday, January 5. He would like us to both come in and sign together. I figured this was enough time for scheduling and for me to save up the money. They said it may have to be rescheduled if they get a court date in between now and then."
Not sure if I'm going to respond if what I should say. I feel like saying, "I'm not signing anything you lying b*tch" but that's just the anger talking. I love her and am ready to fight.
Just don't what to do then let it take it's course.
Lots can change between now and then. You can always cancel when the actual date approaches.
As for now, it is too far out to worry about
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If you didn't notice.. She DID make sure to schedule it after the 1st of they year... (your idea)....
It means nothing at this point. I would agree to it and see where I am at in a couple of weeks. Who know, maybe you will get to the point that you want to meet even SOONER... LOL...
You are fine. Life is good. Happy and at peace. Enjoying your new life adventure. Water off a duck's back...
I've already begun work to expose the A. SIL knows what is going on and she can't keep her mouth shut.
I get this email from W after I respond that time and date is acceptable: "do you want to drive together, to save one of us gas, or do you want to just meet there? Any chance you could help me out at all with the cost of this?"
Drive together? Uh, no. Help her on the cost? No. Not going to reply to this. It's still 3 weeks away.
I see what you are saying, but how do you balance that with being a responsible person?
In my situation, my #1 goal is to get primary care of my S. I can't be out at the bars, partying w/ women, and being irresponsible.... and I wouldn't want to be unless I could see instant success at restoring my marriage.
Seems impossible...
I don't mean this to be rude or mean, but if a person can't figure out how to balance having fun with responsibility, then I can see why you called yourself a controlling "stick in the mud." Is it possible that your wife became "bored" and wanted some excitement in her life to balance out the stress of working and having a new child?
One of the biggest mistakes we make is to stop having fun and laughter with our spouses and going out and having fun.....
I don't think it is in any way irresponsible to show your WS that you are enjoying life to the fullest.
Work hard, play hard. You CAN do both and be just as responsible as the person who sits home and fails to see that he or she is boring his spouse to death because of not enough fun, laughter and spontaneity in the relationship.
Women are attracted to men who know how to balance fun with responsibility and become bored with those who can't, don't or won't.
I agree. But the reason I stopped having fun and enjoying life was due to my W's affair.
Now, I would love to do certain things to make myself happier, but I can't because I have a divorce to pay for, a S to take care of by myself, and work responsibilities.
Until this is D is final she will still be keeping me from living life to the fullest.
I get this email from W after I respond that time and date is acceptable: "do you want to drive together, to save one of us gas, or do you want to just meet there? Any chance you could help me out at all with the cost of this?"
You COULD ignore, but I don't think this one (at least the "help pay" part of this) will simply go away.
I would reply "No, I don't think either would be appropriate. I have my own costs associated with this, and it's not even something I want. Let me know if the 5th is a problem, so I can plan accordingly."
Yes you are. There have been times lately that I say to myself... "Yes, he gets it"... You are close, so very close...
"Who needs this?". ..(when you really believe that statement and feel it is when you will be on your way)
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I've already begun work to expose the A. SIL knows what is going on and she can't keep her mouth shut.
Yep.. telegraph, telephone, television, and telaSIL...LOL... it should get around fast....
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I get this email from W after I respond that time and date is acceptable: "do you want to drive together, to save one of us gas, or do you want to just meet there? Any chance you could help me out at all with the cost of this?"
Couple of options here..... 1) the funny sarcastic approach..."yes YOU can drive to save one of us gas(me) LOL....
2) the no nonsense approach...."Let's just meet there"
I recommend HIGHLY that you NOT help her pay one red cent for this.. NOT A DIME... She is already revealing to you that she is broke.. Let her borrow it from her "friend".. Maybe he would even give it to her as a gift that she doesn't have to pay back...
As Puppy says.....CONSEQUENCES......
I like your idea though of not responding.... I am just trying to keep you loosened up. I think you will be just fine. You actually seem like you have a great sense of humor..... Stand strong. You are perfectly fine. Water off a duck's back..
