So I get an email from W that reads: "tonight, cousin needs me to run somewhere with her. Can I pick the kids up when we are done? She has to go pick up a purse in "40 miles away" but doesn't want to go alone. Is that ok?"
This seems to be a silly request for me to have the kids into the evening. Really, go with someone to pick up a purse?
Breakaway - I expected that response from you. Not that it's bad but my last attempt was a cheeselss tunnel. For my W to think she could keep EA while reconciling was a slap in the face. W really believed that she could "not cross the line" w/ OM. With her emotional issues, I think he was a good backup for her, which turned out to be right they are back together. All that effort turned out to be a cheeseless tunnel.
Trying something different and getting my self respect back.
So I get an email from W that reads: "tonight, cousin needs me to run somewhere with her. Can I pick the kids up when we are done? She has to go pick up a purse in "40 miles away" but doesn't want to go alone. Is that ok?"
This seems to be a silly request for me to have the kids into the evening. Really, go with someone to pick up a purse?
I had plans for tonight and let W know that. She also asked what I was going w/ the kids for mty b-day on Friday. I just replied, "I'm going to party... oh, you meant the kids". I let her know they would be ready when she was out of work...
W's response: "ok, cool! cause I need to take them to my sisters RIGHT after work on Friday.
never mind about tonight. Just drop them off when you normally do, my mom will watch them for me."
Looks like W is doing a little of her own DBing my adding mystery about "taking the kids to her sister's right after work". She has some plans of her own to celebrate my b-day.
I had plans for tonight and let W know that. She also asked what I was going w/ the kids for mty b-day on Friday. I just replied, "I'm going to party... oh, you meant the kids". I let her know they would be ready when she was out of work...
W's response: "ok, cool! cause I need to take them to my sisters RIGHT after work on Friday.
never mind about tonight. Just drop them off when you normally do, my mom will watch them for me."
Looks like W is doing a little of her own DBing my adding mystery about "taking the kids to her sister's right after work". She has some plans of her own to celebrate my b-day.
Sitter thing seems to be under control.
Hey A - Is that her idea of taking care of her children - dropping them off at her sister's?? What do the kids get out of that? Sounds like all she wants to do is get the kids out of her hair so she can do things. Is that accurate?
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"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
Breakaway - I expected that response from you. Not that it's bad but my last attempt was a cheeselss tunnel. For my W to think she could keep EA while reconciling was a slap in the face. W really believed that she could "not cross the line" w/ OM. With her emotional issues, I think he was a good backup for her, which turned out to be right they are back together. All that effort turned out to be a cheeseless tunnel.
Trying something different and getting my self respect back.
Sweetie that wasn't really directed at you...it was "in general" and I think/hope you know me well enough by now to kind of get it. Like you said, you expected it.
That being said it was flippant and impulsive, guilty as charged.
A...I don't think for one single second you should tolerate her affair. I have never said that. People keep implying I mean that when I have repeatedly said I don't.
You deserve to get your self-respect back!!
And I think you have one of the more difficult sitches on the board because I think your wife is most likely emo disturbed. In fact I think there are is a large number of people here who are struggling (myself included) because our spouses are not rational. Not "in the fog" not rational...but fundamentally so.
I want the very very best for A in Ohio. I think you are a great person.
I don't have much to contribute since I'm new. I will go back and read your whole story, so I'm just chiming in here on the end.
From a woman's pov, if I had to go somewhere in the evening (dark) that was 40 miles away and I wasn't familiar with the area I'd want someone to go with me too. That said, she asked and if you already have plans then too bad for her. Sounds like she realized she had to make other arrangements than to rely on you.
PS I am amazed at your DBing, will study up!
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
Hey A - Is that her idea of taking care of her children - dropping them off at her sister's?? What do the kids get out of that? Sounds like all she wants to do is get the kids out of her hair so she can do things. Is that accurate?
Bingo Mules! Keep in mind, OM hates kids! That plus she is trying to keep a secret. She'll need a sitter for Saturday night as well because her company holiday party on Saturday.
