All of you will never know how priceless you all have been to me throughout this difficult year.
This board and the wonderful people in it have been one of my greatest gifts.
The support, hope, love and caring have made a unbearable situation bearable.
I love you all and hope that this New Year brings you peace.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
All my extended family came to my house for gift opening and dinner.
It was very joyous.
I did better than I expected. I rarely thought about my ex.
I had all my children with me.
We all remembered my mother in prayer.
The evening was full of laughter and love.
The kids informed me that ex's sister and husband are getting divorced because ex's sister cheated on him. I am realizing that this is a pattern in this family. Almost a family curse.
The kids told me that ex had to have $7000.00 worth of dental work done because of his obsessive teeth grinding since we split.
My goal this year is to be the best person I can be. To love my children and to be a good role model for them. To keep my boundaries with my ex and to show him unconditional love. I will not accept anything that interferes with my beliefs, morals and values. I will never again tolerate being second best. Ex will not be able to push my buttons, nor will I tolerate anything close to abusive behavior, verbally, emotionally or physically. I will not pursue him in any way, shape or form. I will continue my journey with God and try to follow his ways.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Merry Christmas to you Trusting and to all of my family on this board
You are truly blessed to have been able to spend this time with your kids , family and friends.
My adult kids and DIL were with me last night, and we'll all be over to my mom's today for the extended family get together.
I did think of x often last night as we were doing the family thing...thinking of what he was missing, and wondering if he ever misses the times we use to share as a family. I wondered how he was spending his Christmas eve, and if his family crossed his mind at all, regardless of who he will be spending the holiday with.
My thoughts are with him, my prayers are with him..but I feel so fortunate to be able to spend last night and today with our kids.
Ewwwwww.....$7k??? That's some serious dental work!!
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
This morning he demanded that the kids write OW a note telling her how wonderful they think she is.
He wants them then to present this to her as a Christmas gift.
The kids did not want to do this.
He told them they did not have any choice.
Then could not think of anything to say.
I had to HOLD myself back from calling him and chewing his ass out.
He was definitely testing me.
He was trying to push my buttons.
He is trying to justify OW to the kids and his family.
Is this not the sickest thing?
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Too bad one of Santa's reindeers can't bite him on the a$$ for his own Christmas gift!!!
Yes it is sick...but then this whole midlife crisis thing is.
I guess if anything it should point out how out of touch they are with reality...that they should even consider manipulating their kids into 'validating' their relationship with the OP. And it should show us how they know down deep that the relationship is a sham if it needs coerced validation from anyone!
Yes it is wrong what he has tried to do, but your two oldest are old enough to stand up for themselves, and I hope they will. It is something they know is wrong. They know that he has put them in a bad position.
Chances are OW whined about not being appreciated enough by his 'other family' members, and he's trying to appease her.
Take some deep breaths Trusting.
He's hanging himself on this one.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
All my ex cares about is what it looks like on the outside.
So superficial.
I can't stand what he is doing to the children.
I am praying a lot today. It is the first time in a long time that I felt very bitter toward him.
I really feel he is trying to suck me in.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
you know my thoughts towards your x. JUSTIFICATION...remember.thats all it is. He has to justify that what he has done to everyone is ok and that the choices he made are "normal and ok". He is wrong. We know it.. no getting around it.
it has been a long journey -- i remember yours as you i know remember mine.
Where is our Hope my friend?? MY HOPE IS IN THE LORD!! right??!! =)
HOPE in the Lord. That is the ONLY place we can find peace and rest. The mlc'r is confusion and unrest. AND FOR now - FOR THIS SEASON we need rest. It is our time to replenish. I really really feel it in my spirit... it is time to rest. =)
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
