I am glad to hear that your daughter is ok. My one bright spot in 2008 is that I found this web sight and have met some really incredible people. So we have to look just a bit harder for those good things! lol
Time for a new journal, a log of the challenges we have faced and the demons we have conquered. Soon we will be able to put more distance between the good times to come and the bad that we have had.
Have a wonderful day today as we start anew.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I agree Kat, one of the only good things in 2008 was finding this site, you all have been so helpful and have gotten me through the tuff stuff. (Thank you all)
W called today, kept talking and talking (as normal) about the driving directions to D9 basketball game (she took D9, I was working) and other unimportant stuff, was telling me about dates she has scheduled for January, she is going to a hockey game, etc. I was thinking to myself, I don't care what you do or where you go, all I want to know is when or if you want the kids this month.
She is going to take them Saturday, she'll pick them up at 4pm and have them back home at 9am so I can take them to church. This is typical, not long enough to be of any effort, just enough time to go out to dinner, watch a movie and go to bed.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
Are you going to try for full custody? I mean you have a record of how much time she is spending with them. Just curious. You are such a great Dad. your kids are really lucky.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Yes kat, I'm going for full custody, W wasn't happy about it, saying even people in jail get 50% custody, I told her that if I gave her 50% custody (on paper), I could never trust that she wouldn't come back at me looking for child support. She even tried to get full custody (on paper) of one kid so she could file as head of household with the IRS (better standard deductions). She knows that if I see anything other than full custody listed in the D paperwork, I'll flip out. Last thing she wants is to fight this out in court.
I have to watch myself, I don't want to upset her, just like she doesn't want to fight this out in court, I don't want a custody battle on my hands. I have always told her anytime she wants the kids come and get them. Its turned out just like I thought somewhere just north of never.
She will pick the kids up sometime around 2:00 and 4:00pm tomorrow and drop them off at 9:00am on Sunday and in her head, she has spent the an entire day with them.
Tired of all this, confused, wondering about my future, whats Gods plan for me, will I ever meet someone and fall in love again, will I be hurt again, whats all this going to do to my kids, what does this teach the kids, (throw away society) and I'm tired, very tired of keeping my mouth shut, she spews out all this nonsense all the time, and I just want to tell her to shut up or I don't give a rats ass but I don't I keep my mouth shut and don't say anything.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
You will be teaching your kids that even though our society has become a toss away the old type, it doesn't have to be that way. You can change that a bit at a time and your kids will perhaps have the values that our parents grew up with. We have to be the change we hope to see.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Jeff, I know your just biding time. Some people didn't really understand what you were doing at the outset, but I did.
Don't rock the boat until AFTER the D and you get what you want.
Just curious, how would she be able to file for child support if y'all had a 50/50 deal? Not that I think she should have 50/50, but thats what I'm doing in my sitch. I figured if we have the kids that way, then either one of us shouldn't pay.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
We just got back from D9 basketball game, D9 called W to tell her how she did, I talked to W to find out when she would be picking up the kids, she said 4:00pm and I'm not lying, she said that gives her enough time to take them out to dinner, watch a movie and then put the kids to bed
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my post from Yesterday at 07:23 PM She is going to take them Saturday, she'll pick them up at 4pm and have them back home at 9am so I can take them to church. This is typical, not long enough to be of any effort, just enough time to go out to dinner, watch a movie and go to bed.
Hey H4H, yes I don't want to rock the boat until everything is final, how could she get child support if we had 50/50 custody. Because I make substantially more $ than her, she could petition the courts for me to provide child support to her so she could support the kids eventhough she doesn't have them but according to the D paperwork she has them half the time.
Going out to meet some friends tonight, won't be out to late, D9 in final of tournament, game at 9:15am, so if the kids are going to church W will have to take them to 7:00am mass and I know that isn't going to happen. Nothing I can do about it, and its only once, what will be wierd is going to mass by myself. I'll go to a earlier mass so I won't see the regulars at my 10:00am mass.
Hope everyone has a great day, I have a lot of cleaning to do, I have to fix old lady neighbors kitchen fauset (Its leaking) and laundry, all before I get some me time.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
