Sorry to post here, but I'm trying to locate your story, saffie. I saw that you posted something about "entitlement" on another thread. It struck me that I might have some of those traits, and then I went looking for your past posts to see if I could learn something.
If you could enlighten me on the concept of entitlement, that would be so helpful. My story can be found under Newcomers, "The Awakening," if you're interested.
Sorry it took me so long to get back to you. At first, I was scared bec. I thought the above were talking about me I'm often confused, but I'm getting better. Anyway, yes, I have a lawyer, but I'm thinking seriously about dropping her. H and I only talk when I call him and so far it's been almost two weeks, AGAIN. He never calls me and when I mention it (usually say it's been weeks) he always says, "Well, it'll get to be a lot longer than that."
My SIL says he's game playing, and I'm really off the rollercoaster this time. I have a pretty good IC, and trying to get my own life back together again. Anyway, thanks for your comments. I'm good in the way of lawyers.
I crash, emotionally, but far less now than before.
Remember who we were referring to before. Well she has actually had one of my posts to her deleted now so don't feel bad about whatever you said to her.
I have come to the conculsion she is either crazy or a phoney!!!!!
If you say anything she doesn't want to hear she goes into denial or feels threatened. I just don't know what her ex has to do to show her it's over!!!!!!
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Hi Saffie, I had just reached same conclusion as you. Something doesn't quite add up. I hadn't noticed the deleted post,I had read it though and noticed no reply. It took all my will power not to point out that the playground activities were not helping.Well it made me think back to when I was about 11-12ys old and passing notes on for friends!
Maybe a drama queen who just loves misery. I am just away for the week. Hope you are doing fine.
found this thread tonight! wacky it took so long, sorry. Did you ever try to send a message to me? Bet not b/c the moderators here won't let us do that but this is a good reason for why it'd be nice to be able to contact each other via the moderators or some way of contacting each other privately. And since they don't let us post the emails...how else can we reach each other?
I found this by accident. No time to post more now but thought I'd post so I can return here later. I'll go to the person but given that other experience we had with mir3, (was it him?) I find myself noticing this more now. I NEVER saw rudeness or such overt "emotional blindness" back in the day, three, two and just one year ago. About a year ago I noticed the tone of 10% of the people here changed downwardly and it shocked me. Same with the time I gave that guy a pretty gentle 2 x 4 and he called me a ball buster and implied I dislike men or want to be a "ball buster" um sure....great point! Bet his wife gets VERY happy talking to him.
and the other day I told a guy I felt I was "enabling" him to repeat his pattern b/c there had been NO growth or change in over 2 years of posts I had been involved in and could not believe the almost verbatim repeating of his, like cut and paste from 2 years ago to us...come on, stop wasting our time and yours and your wife's, etc. It was just so frustrating to discover that. And then, others say it is really over 3 years and that they also felt so exasperated with him) and since I felt bad about that, the whole "enabling" thing was not something I wanted to do if he was only going to give lip service (and he does that part well, like he has a script of "healthy insights" but does nothing different.) So instead of wasting my time and his, etc. I posted that. HE then denied me access to post, which was kind of funny, and THEN posted to me HERE on DB, to meet him on facebook and posted the town I live in cuz it's near him????? Crazy man with NO boundaries...just his needs...and he has a lot of them. He could have called or emailed but wanted to make it public here, yet not allow me to post back in public, to him in reply...super brave and super healthy...yeah, I LOVE being publicly manipulated.
So there is a weird element on the site that I wish the moderators would focus on. Was not this way 3 years ago, that I recall.
I'll check on the posts mentioned here later on and check with you as well saff. If this is a hijack, sorry. But it isn't is it? This is OURS...right? Yep let's claim it!
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I'm often confused, but I'm getting better. Anyway, yes, I have a lawyer, but I'm thinking seriously about dropping her. H and I only talk when I call him and so far it's been almost two weeks, AGAIN. He never calls me and when I mention it (usually say it's been weeks) he always says, "Well, it'll get to be a lot longer than that." 