It's Complicated! Part 3

[MidwesternGirl]

GG:

He needs to get away from everyday life because he is unable to cope with all of the responsibilities on a full time basis.

He does a lot when he comes over and your kids are still quite young. As a result, it does not sound like he is ready for it 24/7 at this time. He is getting there but not quite yet.

[glamgirl]

H went to the Dr yesterday. He liked the Dr and what she had to say, so that is good. They are doing complete bloodwork.

She didn't think food allergies nor did she say my h was manic or bipolar. She did double the dose of AD's that my h is taking. H now just needs to make the blood work appoint and IC.

We were suppose to go out for dinner yesterday, just h and I. Well h calls and says he is bringing S7 and D4. We ended up running some errands too. I was nicely dressed when h picked me up from work.

During dinner I am sure he realized that it was suppose to be just the 2 of us. He looked at me and said Glam we will do something next week. I don't think I looked dissappointed, but I was thinking should I say something to h or just let it go and then amazingly he said this.

He said he was going to be busy with work all weekend, so that means he probably won't show until Sunday. When he left though, he accidently took my car keys. He was driving us around with my car.

I did text him this morning and he said he would drop off later. That is it pretty dull and boring. I guess boring could be good NO drama and more predictability.

Oh since our C appointment h is calling or texting if his plans change in regards to coming over. This is huge, since this has been an issue for me.

Hope all is well with everyone.

[MidwesternGirl]

I am glad he went to the doctor. I was wondering if he would experience any changes such as tiredness, since the meds were doubled?

And very happy to hear he is contacting you if plans change.

[glamgirl]

Thanks MWG. I did ask h if he asked the Dr about him sleeping alot and after eating. It wasn't clear to me whether he talked with the Dr about that or not. I do know that depression can make you want to sleep all the time.

My h did say that the other night he went to bed at a reasonable time and got up at a reasonable time and he felt rested. I think probably part of his problem is that he does not have himself on a good sleep cycle. Staying up all night and working then sleeping for a few hours and then working all day.

I am not sure what he does, but I do see work related e-mails from him around 1-4am, so that tells me he is up, and then again around 6 or 7am.

I just have to put it on a shelf for now. H is a grown man and doesn't need me giving him suggestions on when to sleep or not.

I am getting calls from my ex h. Just listening to all of his drama. I just listen and offer NO advice. He does say what do you think I should do Glam. I just say I am not sure ex h. I cannot FIX all these problems.

I just want my h back. Now I feel like I don't even have a h.

[Maya44]

I don't think you're losing your hubby at all. You've had alot of positives lately and I see it as a positive that he's going to see a Dr! I think that's hard for alot of men.

[glamgirl]

Thanks FG I need those reminders. I do see the positives, it's just that I want to see that one positive before it's too late.

I did find my spare keys and let h know, so I am sure he won't be over today. I know that he was busy, so if I could save him a trip then I would.

I have an eye infection. Went to the dr and got some eye drops. Spending a lot of time contemplating the future. I am sure that is NOT a good idea for me, but for some reason can't seem to focus on the NOW.

[MidwesternGirl]

GG:

Stop contemplating and let God have this situation. It is beyond our control.

Sounds like your h does have irregular sleep patterns due to the depression so when he goes to sleep, he wakes up, probably cannot get back to sleep and works some, then goes back to sleep.....no wonder he sleeps so much!

Your ex-h--does H know he is contacting you? Are you comfortable with x calling and asking your advice? Just wondering and also, if your h would be upset knowing x was calling.

There is progress in your sitch, Glam, so be patient and pray. It all sounds good. There will always be a few glitches along the way and you do not want him home too soon.

[Silent Chrleader]

Spending a lot of time contemplating the future........

Remember, GG, this is called "future fu**ing" and it's definitely NOT good for you!!!

[[[[[[BIG HUGS]]]]]]

[dl443322]

Hey G, you posted to me that I need to take care of myself and my son right now. I think you need to do that too. Not take care of me and my son (LOL - just kidding!) but yourself and your children.

I think you spent a lot of time thinking about your h and maybe you should try to do something nice for GG, ya know?

[glamgirl]

BM thanks for that. You are right I need to just focus on me and the kids. I think my h has such a part in my life, because he is here typically 5-6 days a week. It's hard not to focus on them when he is here that much.

I get down too, because I really want more for my life. Who wouldn't. I feel like my h is a boyfriend not a h.

Boyfriends you date and have fun with and then they leave and live elsewhere.