"I HAVE done some things to personally leave an impression, if you kwim "
hi there Pup - does this mean that you have given the impression of dating, but without actually dating? i mean - would your other half have "believed" that you were dating even though you were not?
I simply did things like leave my ring off and at home on a Friday or a Saturday evening when I went out and met my (male) friends for beers and a cigar. When it got back to me thru our daughters that their mother thought I was with someone, I just smiled and said "I'd never do that -- that's not right," and left it at that. Same when my wife would ask or accuse me.
I never lied. But if by suddenly wearing some new clothes or some new cologne leaves her with the impression that someone else is interested in me, I didn't do anything to squelch that belief.
I have done little things - told kids that I had "plans" right before I dropped them off with W.
Set my MySpace status to "tingly and interested" and my mood as "adored" (W won't know what it is that makes me feel that way)
However, in our marriage, she was unbelievably jealous. There was some lady that apparently liked me - I was clueless. I was directing choir at church, and she would give me a friendly church hug. I never said a word to her, but W flipped out, and told her not to touch me again, and so on. I was so baffled - but women have a "sixth sense".
My point being that it's probably OK to be mysterious. I have told W I would not date - mostly my beliefs.
However, adultery cancels all that, so I'm wide open now!
Interesting topic.. My W left for a while now and I left hints sometimes and try to be mysterious. So far she doesn't really care one way or the other because the OM is probably still in the picture. I have not been on any date, but trust me I would love to.
Is dating considering GAL...??
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
Like through the conversation with W, I left hints like there are new single female friends in my life since she left. Before she left, I have none. She knows I took the ring off months also. I guess after all, I didn't leave too much hints. I did told MIL before W is on her own now and I may start looking at dating soon.
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
It would be in my book. As Phoenix said, it helps give you an ego boost. It is almost as if many are saying..
"I don't want an ego boost, I want my wife back and I will stay unhappy and refuse any other ideas, thoughts or opportunities until she does come back".....
As I follow these threads of men it seems that they never do get over their WS UNTIL they find someone else.
AinO.. Where is he? My bet is that he has started to move on by showing interest in meeting and going out with new women in his life. Anybody heard from him?
We have to be careful about the word "dating"...
Going for coffee, going to a movie, chatting over a meal...
With the opposite sex of course... Just two people doing some activity together. Seems like we get ahead of ourselves.
It baffles me how men can talk to women on here back and forth day after day, and yet tighten up and start telling me that they are not ready for "dating"....
So we aren't ready for a cup of coffee with a woman of the opposite sex? I think it is quite a leap. And yet we can talk and laugh and joke and flirt with women on here...
It baffles me how men can talk to women on here back and forth day after day, and yet tighten up and start telling me that they are not ready for "dating".... So we aren't ready for a cup of coffee with a woman of the opposite sex? I think it is quite a leap. And yet we can talk and laugh and joke and flirt with women on here...
IMHO, I am pretty sure all the ladies from this board are here for fixing their M and not looking for dates. We are on here in a different mind set, helping ourselves and others. Plus we are here anonymously and it help us to open up.
I am pretty sure if you go on a real date. The first sentence from you will NOT be like here 'I want to fix my M and I am lost'. And the fist response you will get will NOT like from here, 'Sorry to see you here...blah blah blah....' It is just totally different mind set.
Would it be fun to try this on a real date....just a thought...LOL.
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!
