Divorce is around the corner II

[Truelove]

I just noticed that my last thread locked. Here is a link to my last one Divorce is around the corner

I had a very strange dream last night: I had a dream in my dream!

I my dream I was dreaming that H came by. When I woke up in my dream my dream became true! Then I woke up! Weird, I never experienced anything like it before.

It was a grey day again and I was a bit bored, but I had to do some organizing. Thank goodness I will go out on the week-end.

[Cinderellaman]

Hi True,

Hope your days cheers up ! Have a great weekend ...what are you up to ?

[Truelove]

Hi Cinders,

Thanks for your wishes. Here is what I was up to:

I had a "strange encounter" with a guy I got to know. We found out that we have the same interests but he seems to be so fussy and I felt that he is too old and not lively enough for me. He also acted in such a strange and critical way that I was happy when we parted. When I got home I was glad for he first time that I was on my own and nobody was telling me what to do or bother me!! I thought I would like some male company again but I don't want just anybody.

I finally got what I thought was a semi nasty e-mail from H which I was expecting for a long time. We have to deal with some business matter and I asked H several times to write to me what exactly I needed to do. He just ignored it and so I told him what I did. THEN he immediately wrote back to tell me whether I have gone mad to do what I did!

I got so furious I blew a gasket! I thought that I refuse to take his nastiness any longer and always be polite and nice. Therefore, I wrote back to him that he needn't think he can walk all over me. I asked him a thousand times to tell me what to do and he didn't, and that I wouldn't mind not dealing with it any longer and letting him do it all.

Two days later H replied that I took the whole thing too seriously and it was meant in a joking way. I should lighten up and that he does not want to walk all over me – he was never like that! That we are not communicating well!

I thought I would write back explaining why the misunderstanding happened but decided to just write "Thank you" in a few days.

I am driving to my GF's place this afternoon. It was snowing again although we have minus freezing temperatures. I hope it will stop by the time I am leaving and it will get warmer like the forecast says.

[job]

True,
In time, you will know the type of man you would like for a companion once again. You are in the "test drive" mode right now and don't be in too big of a hurry to settle for just anyone. I think you did the right thing with the parting of the ways. I don't think he was the right one for you.

As for h, good for you. Sometimes we have to just tell them like it is. He's been pushing your buttons for a long time and you've been a very nice lady about it all. I think it may have rocked him a bit to find out that you weren't taking his crap any longer.

Please drive safely and enjoy your time w/your friend.

[MidwesternGirl]

TL:

Hope you have a nice day and a safe drive. Make this a time to forget about h for awhile.

[MidwesternGirl]

Oops--I meant to have a nice day and safe drive!!!

[Truelove]

Hi Snodderly and MWG,

Thank you for your posts.

I was lucky that it did not snow much or was icy on the roads when I had to drive yesterday. I had a good time with my GF.

Snodderly:
I was surprised that H sent me such a long e-mail after I told him off. He has not done that for a long time!

At the moment there are ski-ing holidays here and there is nothing on in the theatre. I was hoping that I would be able to go to a nice performance during this week. So I will have to wait until Friday, and this time I will go to the Jazz concert for sure, even if I have something on during the day.

I wish you a good week.

[Cinderellaman]

True,

I just wanted to say....I know exactly what you mean....I too think I don't want just ANY man, I think living alone and making our own choices whenever WE want to, makes it harder to be with another person again...

I do think that in time, that too may change.

Weird about his respons to you...hope you have a great week ! xx

[Truelove]

Hi Cinders,

Thanks for dropping in and your wishes.

I think living alone and making our own choices whenever WE want to, makes it harder to be with another person again...

I agree

I do think that in time, that too may change.

Do you really think so? – I have the feeling that it will get harder and harder as time goes by. But if you think the opposite, of course it would be much better.

I sent my e-mail reply to H and asked him a few things re business. He wrote back answering my questions. Again he wrote more than usual telling me a few things about him.

H does not want me to know where he is but he would like to know where I am thinking of going on holiday! He also wrote that he cannot afford to run a car where he is. (He has never done that before.) I wonder if he is running out of money! - His place was sold and he also asked when he will get the proceeds.

It was a beautiful but still cold day today, and I went for a long walk on the water front. The weather is supposed to be the same tomorrow which would be lovely. It is snowing heavily all over Europe but thank goodness we have finally some super weather. The days are also noticeably getting longer. However, it is supposed to either rain or snow again later in the week. I hope though that this weather will prevail.

[Cinderellaman]

Hi True...

Well....yes, I also think it's possible that it gets even harder to BE with someone after being alone for long, but I have heard of stories, of people having been alone for 8 to 10 years and then meeting someone and loving it. Loving doing things together and enjoying the company ! A relationship of course is always some sort of compromise, so maybe at one point we are once again prepared to SHARE and ACCEPT.

Strange emails from your H.

Enjoy the weather, it's been snowing here and it's COLD !!!!!!

Take care True!! xxx