W's E-mail from yesterday: Something good will happen to you between1:00 and 4:00 PM tomorrow. It could be anywhere -- AOL, Yahoo, outside of school, anywhere. Get ready for the biggest shock of your life..
well nothing happened to me today. W called me today at work, I swear she calls me for no reason, called to tell me about D9 girl scout meeting on the 23rd. I'll see her at least 8 times between now and then so what was the ungency to let me know, she just likes to talk.
When I talked to W yesterday - she wanted to know if I would keep her on my auto insurance policy and she'll give me money each month - of course I said no - I told her I didn't want to collect $ from her each month, but I really don't want the liability of her on my policy
When I talked to W yesterday - she wanted to know if I would use her dinning room set, she plans to move in with her F and doesn't want to store it. I told her I would think about it hmmm !!!! ok I'm done thinking about it - NO, I don't want anything of hers in my house, in fact I wish she would get all the crap she has over here out.
Judge signed D paperwork yesterday 02/10 - W says will still take short period of time before its official, sounds official to me already.
Yes lwb, I'm naughty, I could say something but I won't, I do think of being with someone, I'm looking forward to meeting someone, but scared of going throught the process. Its going to be totally wierd. I want to talk to my priest about an annulment first and see what he says
Thank you for checking in on me.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
You definitely have grounds for an annulment due to her psychological problems. (Psychological inability to live the marriage commitment) I believe she has to agree, and I think she would. She says all the time she just can't do the "kid thing" and everything.
W is taking the kids today (day only) she had cards for everyone, and she is taking them shopping. So I guess they will all get some new clothes and toys today - Its Christmas every day mom comes by
The kids and I went Ice Skating last night. We went last week to a birthday party and the kids had so much fun, I decided while the the skating rinks are still open to take them more. We all had fun, I fell down twice, kids were laughing, it wore them out, we got home at 9:00pm and they went straight to bed. Its good exercise for them and me.
W gave me a valentines card, said "I hope you find peace and happiness sincerely W" - don't know what to make of it, it doesn't bother me, just something wierd.
Happy Valentines Day
Thank you for checking in on me.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
I think she is trying to feel less guilty perhaps. So is the deed done? I know it is a strange period of time. I just assumed I was divorced, didn't really want to know when it became final. But when I found out that it was final, it wasn't nearly as tragic as I thought. I think that was because I did a lot of work on myself up until that point.
I am a work in progress. Come join the club! Happy Valentine's Day!
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Happy Valentines Day Jeff! Sounds like guilt to me too. The card and the Disney mom stuff. I always worry about that spoiling the kids, esp. my D9 he spoils her terribly which he didn't do hardly at all before the A. But I try to not do the same at least & make her save up chore money and allowance for stuff which is what we used to do before H became Disney Dad.
I've always thought your sitch would be resolved only if your W got some serious counseling. Otherwise, best to try to focus on life with you and your kids. (((((Jeff)))) Karen
W taking kids for the day and taking D9 to hockey game tonight
I did send W my ring wdid, I didn't mail it to her. I didn't want her to think I was sending any type of signal (good, bad or ugly)
I had a plastic storage container I was puttting some of her old stuff in, trophys, old pictures of her friends kids, etc. so I put my ring in an envelope and put it in with the pictures. She picked up the container last week.
She has called several times making reference to the container (I never said anything about did you get the ring) she has also made several comments about her birthday tomorrow.
Oh well life goes on, I'm very busy working around the house, I need to finish my taxes, pay bills, scrub the bathrooms, laundry (always laundry) will have movie night with the 3 little ones.
Thank you for checking in on me.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
I would first like to apologize for not being here for some of you. I know some of you are going through tuff times right now and I haven't been a very good friend, I'll try to post more.
journaling: when W called Saturday I asked if she was going to stop by so the kids could give her a present and sing happy birthday to her, she said she had forgot all about her birthday (I don't see how, she's been telling me about if for the last 2 weeks)
She had D9 last night took her to hockey game, I took the other three to church this morning and then W and D9 walk in and sat with us, how embarrassing I immediately started thing of lighting striking her. She even went to communion, I guess she confessed her sins and now everything is alright (we're still married in the eyes of the church) - Everyone who sees me and the kids every Sunday, they know my situation, how can she just come in like that in front of everyone.
W took kids to D9 basketball game after church I put out the cakes, card and present. Had everything set up for her and the kids to celebrate her birthday and close to the time I knew she would be back with the kids I left to run to the hardware store. When I came back the kids were finishing up their cake. I had a piece with some coffee, W stayed for a couple of minutes and then she was gone.
Again, I will try to post more, you guys/gals have been so kind to post your thoughts for me and I haven't reciprocated
Thank you for checking in on me.
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D7, D7, S6 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me New Abbreviation = WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08
W took kids to D9 basketball game after church I put out the cakes, card and present. Had everything set up for her and the kids to celebrate her birthday and close to the time I knew she would be back with the kids I left to run to the hardware store. When I came back the kids were finishing up their cake. I had a piece with some coffee, W stayed for a couple of minutes and then she was gone.
Post when you have time, Jeff, I always figure you are a bit busy with your kids and GALing and all that! I do love to get your updates though and know you are ok!
I think you did everything almost perfectly. Helping the kids to celebrate her birthday I think is a good idea, and I do that too. My only wish was that you had stayed at the store just a few minutes extra and skipped eating the piece of cake. I don't think you should personally have celebrated her birthday with her, she doesn't deserve it, although the plus to that is your kids prob. enjoyed that! Karen
Hey life happens. It is fine being busy and with your kids is even better. Don't sweat when or how often you get here. Just let us know how you and the kids are doing. You guys are in in our thoughts and prayers.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
- of course I said no - I told her I didn't want to collect $ from her each month, but I really don't want the liability of her on my policy 
