Ready2Change (9) Divorce Papers Signed

[kat727]

Didn't I read that today was your Birthday?? Happy Birthday!! Enjoy.

kat

[Gypsy]

That's great to hear Ready..

Let her come to you. Her anger is keeping a wall up.. and you being so positive after she's the one who wanted the divorce no doubt annoys her even more. AND you have more time with the kids than she ever thought possible. Life is just not fair sometimes.

*hugs*

[kat727]

Thanks for the hug. Here is a bear hug back at you!!

HHHUUUGGG!

kat

[Ready2Change]

MsR2C and I had parent teacher conferences today. We do them together...... Kids doing OK in school. Hopefully I can spend more time working with them now that the custody battle is over....

Anyway, there is still no talking. She did make some comments about my parenting style to the teachers. Her POV, not mine. I am following the "Love and Logic" approach. I was very relaxed.

I was back to enjoying her for who she is......Even though she is still blaming me for everything.......

[Ready2Change]

Wow, it's been about a month since I posted. I guess I am GAL. Most of the drama is done. I see MsR2C here and there. Still no talking.

Get kids for my 5 day stretch today.....Life is good!

[Ready2Change]

MrR2C speaks!

She says: "When would you like to talk about this summer?" I said "send me an email".

WTF. It clearly states in the divorce papers that we communicate through email. The summer agreement is already in place. The only item open is when I get the kids for a 2 week vacation and same for her.....

[dday101798]

Hi R2C,

I'll have to read up on your story. Mine is unfolding much the same as the way yours sounds, we're about to finish off the D paperwork and I am looking forward to the custody battle being over as with each day it draws closer, I feel a sense of relief, al beit painful, but relief none the less.

[Ready2Change]

We are now on a week on/week off parenting plan.

Well, the kids were with MrsR2C for 10 days, I had a Tuesday dinner visit, saw them at church and baseball practice. The exchange was Friday and they are now with me for the week. We had a great weekend together.

[sophia]

Ready2Change,

Did you or your wife file for the divorce? I often times wonder if my WAH is just waiting for me to do it so he doesn't have to deal with the guilt.

When you look back at your situation, what is the best advice you can give for the LBS? And the book that helped you the most?

I think you are a strong man and a great father.

Me 40
WAH 43
T 4 years
M 9 1/2 months
stepson 9
H left on 5/17/09

[Ready2Change]

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I had an interesting interaction with my ex wife on Friday.

I parent based on "Love and Logic" and recommendations from the kids therapist and the CFI that she hired. IE the Consultant parenting model.

She is still following the helicopter and drill sergeant parenting model.

Anyway, when she arrived at my house for the exchange,she made a statement "Maybe if an adult was here" as she was talking to the kids, referring to our differing parenting styles....I just smiled at her and left.

To make a long story short, After she left I had an overwhelming sense of joy and happiness that I don't have her condescending comments in my life anymore. I was in the best mood. I was singing, dancing and enjoying my time alone.

To top it off, I was able to state my view to her. Text message to her: "Please remember the signed agreement. No negative statements about the other parent to the children. Thanks" She then vented to me. But I didn't take it personally. Her issues, not mine.

Life is GOOD! Detached loving is great......
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