I don't know what to tell you as we all know that dealing with an A and marriage issues throws a whole new twist in it. Thanks for your words on my thread. You know exactly what its like.
Just keep on doing what you are doing. Keep YOUR boundaries and dont let him cross them unless you say so.
Hang in there.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Sorry I haven't been here for a while. I must have gone deaf too, not hearing your requests for support.
I believe what you are doing is remarkable and that you ARE the person that everyone else sees. The only thing is, you are starting to get exhausted with being on the pedestal. Well there's nothing wrong with stepping down for a while and having a well earned rest. Take some time for you, you thoroughly deserve it.
Haven't heard a word for few days. Actually felt better in some ways but worse in other. The main thing for me right now is: 1) I will never know if he can stay sober, 2) I don't know if he will ever be my friend like I have been for him. It all seems hard and I don't want hard anymore. JUst some thoughts.
If you weren't going through so many changes and having so much fun I would tell that I felt abandoned and unheard - BUT... those are my issues and yours are just as important! It was good to hear from you.
I'm not 'going' through changes though, but AM having fun.
You see, I HAVE changed, I am happier, feel as good as I did in my 20s but with 50 yrs experience. Not many can say that!!
I can understand you not wanting hard anymore Kass. As I said, step off the pedestal and stop giving yourself such a hard time. That I am afraid is all your fault. Kick off your shoes, put your feet up and just watch the world go by for a while.
Silva..wouldn't that make you 70? LOLOL Funny enough, I just told Amy I think I may be going thru MY 20's cause I never got to LOLOL..very weird I log on and you just said that!!
{{{Kassie}}} Sadly, as usual, Silva is right in that sometimes we make it hard, we overanalyze (I have a crown for that myself LOL), we kick ourselves, we look for things that aren't there, etc..learning how to just STOP and BE are very tough (at least it is for me).
I know you stated before that you don't want to take "me time", you've had all of that..but maybe the ME time you need is just to be okay with YOU and to kick back and chill..only you know for sure
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
You aint flunked anything, everyone lives their way. Sometimes different ways pull together, other times they push apart (that's why attraction is sometimes called animal magnetism!)
You have lived you way and taken on a lot of other magnets, these are now weighing you down. Time to flip polarity. Let them fall off. Start attracting new ways.
Funny enough, I just told Amy I think I may be going thru MY 20's cause I never got to LOLOL..very weird I log on and you just said that!!