Busy day today. Had play rehearsal and then work. H calls and left a vm for me in the middle of my working. He was dropping the kids off at the halfway spot at 4:30 and was waiting for me and left a little whiny complaining vm to me about how this doesn't seem to be working or something like that. Um, we never arranged a time today. He just decided to make it 4:30 for some reason. I called him and told him I wouldn't have set that time b/c I was working now on Saturdays so can't make it until 7 at the earliest, in my firm assertive trucker (b/c of the laryngitis) voice. He dropped the kids off at the house at 5:00 and didn't even give them dinner. I fed them dinner as soon as I got home of course. I just think it's crazy how he criticizes my parenting all the time!!! I emailed him just now and said let's just set up a permanent time for pickup and drop off every Fri. and Saturday so we don't have any misunderstandings.
Saw a theatre friend I hadn't seen in a while today. Was surprised the D still isn't over. Said OW's D that she knows (her ds were in a play with OW's d) said she thought OW's D was the meanest girl she's ever met. This was before she knew anything about OW and my H and all that. Now that I know her family history mom married 3 times and my H is maybe going to be her 4th, I'm not that surprised at hearing that. This stuff does affect the kids esp. if they go through it over and over again I guess.
Hope you all are having a good weekend. I think I'm going to relax tonight (well maybe just a little housework).... Karen
He is thinking only of himself like usual. I don't know how they can do that for so long. I hope he continues to wear his true colors on the outside so that everyone will see what he is really like.
D10 just broke a glass and it cut my foot so I am not the happiest camper, sorry.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Oh I don't need stitches. It really startled me and that bothered Megan and I was trying to deal with dinner. Everything happens at once! Thanks for asking, it is better now.
How's your throat?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Maybe a little better. If I'm still sick tomorrow though, I'm thinking about going to the Dr. You are right about that, kat. The caterer at my church has a couple functions she wants me to help out on, so I have 2 part time jobs now! I think I can maybe do it b/c the other job has flexible hours. But tricky with the play too. Really hope I don't have to move this week! Hopefully I can find out monday or tues. Hope everyone's having a great weekend.
H just sent me 2 emails. One about how he doesn't know how keeping the house and avoiding the foreclosure will affect his filing for bankruptcy. And I asked him to keep the kids most of Saturday until I could pick them up after work 7:30 to 9, he emails back it depends on Sundays (if he has them or not for church). His emails always make me feel like . My reply was going to be this: I was hoping you could keep the kids most of Saturday whether or not you get Sunday--I have 2 part time jobs now that will be on Saturdays. At least you could give them dinner or early dinner hopefully....I'm not keeping track of hours or whatever, just want the kids to be doing ok. If you feel like Sundays is too much also, maybe you could switch to one Sunday a week or whatever you prefer. I hope we can work this out. How does that sound? I'm always trying to for middle ground, polite but assertive, no more doormat. Can you tell I feel like when I think of him????
It sounds like he is also not going to fax to the mortgage company that they can discuss with me (authorization to do that). B/c my L said she wouldn't have me sign on to the B unless he made the monthly car payment. Well, why should I sign on for that for no reason? If he hadn't found OW, run up our credit cards, go on 4 or 5 vacations, and the double bills the past year, we wouldn't have had to file B. Our combined income this year will be almost $100,000. Karen
And he also is dropping the child support/alimony late every week. He was dropping it off the Friday he got paid or Sunday. Then last week it was Tuesday, and I guess the same or later this week. He's a horrible combination of passive-agressive and agressive-agressive!!! GAH! Should I just talk to the L about this or should I email H? And if so what do I say??? Thanks!!! Karen
Ack, so he just emailed me "she must have talked to you" like I'm lying or something!!! Wouldn't you think he would know me well enough to know I'm not like that. I emailed back: The week of the hearing back in December it was. That was about 3 months ago. I don't think divorce attorneys are people you should trust completely what they say (in fact you told me that a couple months ago too). Not on purpose maybe but like the game of telephone where one person says something (3 months ago) and it gets filtered through 2 more people and a couple months before you get the message. And I'm thinking our attorneys maybe don't like each other that much, so they don't try to phrase things politely from what I've seen also. I know I shouldn't email anymore & probably shouldn't have responded, but I need to cool off a bit!!!! Karen
I emailed H today and asked him about the child support/alimony. He emailed back he's been paying the 1st and 15th (well really the 3rd and the 16th or 17th but I guess he's saying his intention is to pay the 1st and 15th. I already don't have enough money to pay all the bills and he has to delay the payments a couple days. I'm thinking about asking the L to speed up the D to get this over with. Would that be tactically unwise though--b/c he's the one with OW and all? I'm just so ready to have this over with!
Karen
. My reply was going to be this: I was hoping you could keep the kids most of Saturday whether or not you get Sunday--I have 2 part time jobs now that will be on Saturdays. At least you could give them dinner or early dinner hopefully....I'm not keeping track of hours or whatever, just want the kids to be doing ok. If you feel like Sundays is too much also, maybe you could switch to one Sunday a week or whatever you prefer. I hope we can work this out. How does that sound? I'm always trying to for middle ground, polite but assertive, no more doormat. Can you tell I feel like 
Karen