So H emails me this am: i cant seem to get this point through to you so i will try one more time and then give up. you are not accommodating me you are responsible for half the transportation. if i did all the driving picking them up you should do all the driving back. i didn't want her to miss her appointment and you were sick so i accommodated you by bringing them to you.
I will get the kids a key and you can pick them up from my place when i have picked them up from (your town) so its even transporting for the both of us, absent some side deal like the dentist and the field trip. I have zero desire to be picking up the kids at his apt. I want to meet him halfway from his apt. to our house. Am I being unreasonable. Feel free to be honest. Karen
At the risk of sounding like Larry Tate, you are both being reasonable.
I think he is being reasonable for you to pick him up at his place IN GENERAL. The hang-up about not wanting to see his apartment is yours, not his, and that's something you're simply going to have to get over.
HOWEVER, the DISTANCE of his apartment is, I believe, due to the fact that he wanted to live closer to OW? That makes your stance more reasonable.
On the THIRD hand (do people have three hands?), I believe you also said that his JOB is closer to his new place than it is to your house, so you probably won't have a leg to stand on there.
I think you need to compromise on this one Karen, I really do.
I don't see any problem with meeting half way, though I do feel he should pick up most of the scud work since this is all due to the choices he has made.
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It just doesn't seem right that he can move away from his kids' home for years and then expect Karen to drive to wherever he is at. What if he got a job in Alaska. Does that mean Karen has to take her kids there half the time and pay for half of the travel costs due to HIS decision to move, even though it may certainly be about a job? Just doesn't jive with me.
I'm kind of like wdid. But divorce is so common and acceptable, I guess that's how it works out now. I've just been busy, didn't mean to come off really upset. My C agreed with Puppy I should be willing to do half the driving and pick the kids up at his & OW's. Fun, fun. I was telling her I don't want to see pictures of the skank and H and stuff like that, but she seems to think it'll be good for me or something. I mean we're still married. Is this world nuts or me? Probably a bit of both.
Went to the C, then work, and then called about a house. Found one that might be good (haven't seen the inside yet but the kitchen and it looked fine, but the outside looks good and safe, and 2 blocks from our church which is nice. I want to call the guy back to look at it but my phone has gone missing again. I just threw it in the car in the central console in a rush to look at the place and now can't find it anywhere in the car!!! If it doesnt show up, I'm thinking about getting a new one. This place is for rent at only $500 so can't imagine it will be there long!
Well I found my phone where it rolled under D's seat. The place is only 2 bedrooms and will not take pets for any reason. So still looking...Shoot I've got a whole week to find a place and move, plenty of time.... Karen
There's nothing that says you have to go IN his apartment. You can do your drop-off's and pick-up's from the driveway or the front porch, if you want.
And I hope you know me well enough by now, that if your husband's work was near YOUR place, and the ONLY reason he was living in this town was because of OW, there is NO WAY IN HELL I'd advise you to go all the way there.
Well, today we met halfway and that was fine. He got there first and parked next to the handicapped parking so I had to park on the other end. Didn't even see each other. Whew!
I talked to some of the local realtors again today and nothing they said unless I pay over $1000 or do a lease purchase. I can't afford the 1st and don't want to get into a lease purchase before the divorce and stuff really. I called the mortgage company and since only H is on the note (i'm on the deed but not the note) they won't talk to me about renegotiating the mortgage payment until he faxes them an authorization letter for me. I typed one out for him and emailed him and asked him to sign and fax it so I could do that. He wanted to know all the details since his name is on the mortgage, so I emailed back with that I'm trying to keep the house another year or 2 until hopefully the housing market improves. I said I'd let him know before I agreed to do anything with them. So he emailed back if I keep him in the loop then he'll fax it. Um, I'm going to keep him possibly from going through foreclosure and he is acting like that. I know I shouldn't be surprised.
Well, I've got play practice tomorrow and then work after and then pick up the kids. So busy, and I've still got this laryngitis/flu thing. Feel really tired. I've been sick for a week now and if I'm not better by Mon. will try to see the dr. for some antibiotics or something. D9 sings in church Sunday and plays the handbells (with the other kids her age), and S15 is going to be an usher for the first time. And then church supper after. Exciting stuff!!! Karen
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