Hi, I'm new over here. I've been on the newbies board, but someone suggested I come over here and maybe get more help. I'm curious, your d is about the age of mine. Mine's 3 1/2. How does she cope with what has happened? How do you explain to her? My little girl is so smart and mature for a 3yo, but obviously doesn't understand why we don't live together like a family anymore. She keeps asking when daddy is coming home, etc. and I try my best to help her. My son is older, so he understands more. Any advice for the little one? It's killing me inside. Maybe you can stop by my thread titled "I'm done..." Thanks!
Last edited by SoConfused; 03/14/0903:29 PM.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Hmm what i think is it is regret, denial, shame...all that..WITHOUT the willingness to admit any wrong doing..blame blame blame.
I too have gotten so many "empty" answers.
I am with you trusting. Isaiah 43 --Forget about whats happened, dont keep goign over old history. Be alert, bet present. I AM about to do something brand new. It is burstin gout..dont you see it? (the message)
deuteronomy 30 - i set before you two choices..life and death.....what will we choose?
The choices we make for US are just that for US. We have come so far-- and i feel we finally really understand teh DB principles. it IS about letting go, finding YOURSELF and realizing that you can't do anything... WHEN and IF they turn then you (we) are at a place of a healed heart---where IF it happens we can receive them. AND IF IT DOESNT happen. If they dont turn... then we have grown.
Hugs and hugs and hugs to you...vent all you want!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Well, my daughter informed me today that ex told all three kids that he "hates me and wishes to never lay eyes on me again".
Why do they hate so much?
So cruel....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Hi Trusting, what on earth preceded That outburst? No excuse for it whatever. How did the kids respond or did you not dwell on that bit of info he shared with them?
