Hi Regrets - why have you not exposed A to OW husband ? What are your reasons? How would will you feel if you were the last to know ? In fact you may be !
A are decietful, dirty secrets which once uncovered to the light of day tend to wither and die !
He could say to his sister that I'm being malicious. I'm supposed to be in the dark, so i could call her work and speak to her, the others would then guess.
5. Don't waste your time and energy on the other woman.
One of the worst things you can do is become obsessed with the other woman. It's natural for you to be curious about her, but she's not worth your time and energy. Repeatedly questioning your husband about her, referring to her or dragging her name into the conversation puts the spotlight on her instead of on the real issues where it belongs. Don't obsess over the details of what happened between the two of them. Concentrate on working things out between the two of you. Do not humiliate or frustrate yourself by calling or confronting the other woman and demanding that she leave your husband alone. She's not obligated to take orders from you. Harassing her or threatening her will put you on the wrong side of the law. Name-calling, criticizing or belittling her will only make your husband come to her defense. You'll be driving them closer together instead of forcing them apart Forget about the other woman and focus your energy and efforts on getting your marriage back on track.
Will you end up sabotaging your marriage or saving it? The final outcome depends on the way you handle things when you first discover your husband's affair. In the initial stages, you may be unsure exactly what you're going to do. But at least you know what NOT to do. Whether you stay with you
The thing is, I think he thinks he is in love with her, he even defended her.
I now remember a few months ago he was telling me all the crap that was going on at work and this girl kept telling tales and I said she sounds like a little clype nnd he defended her. Alarm bells should have rung then
His mum just called me there. I was fine, i don't want her getting upset about this. Anyway, not sure if I have made a mistake. She said he won't talk to her and I said he was talking to his sister, she didn't seem to know that, now I'm thinking maybe I shouldn't have said that as he told me that in counselling and might p1ss him off me dicussing it.
