Just keep swimming...PH #6

[pearlharbr]

Grrr. Where did the detachment go? I was out at a comedy club with friends and found myself tearing up at the headliner's bit about protecting his wife from other men hitting on her. All I could think was I have other guys hitting on me and xBF couldn't care less. He said he's willing to do anything but he won't even send me an email. Sigh.

How did I lose the detachment so fast and so completely? I'm just frustrated to be so emotional AGAIN. I thought I was through this sad, weepy stage.

[Kenn]

StrangeMarvelousWmn,

Have you checked out the New Kent Winery? Got excited about the wine talk and just jumped in

[Tawnya]

{{{Pearl}}}} Aww sweetie..I still say of COURSE we are gonna have moments like that..or else what kind of hard hearted people would we be?

I hear you tho..I always wonder how hub could go from "you are the best thing since bread" to "whatever" LOLOL..I dunno that I'll quite ever understand it..tho Silva explained it pretty well on his thread once about them checking out long before we did so they are a few months/years ahead of us on the detaching.

I hope, besides that moment, you had a good night my friend

HUGS to you

Tawnya

[davidswife]

(((Pearl))),

Don't beat yourself up for your "blue" moments. Those times just make me appreciate all the days I have when I feel wonderful.

It used to be "blue" days and wonderful moments, now, wonderful days and only occasional "blue" moments.

Progress, progress!

[JDOllie]

((Pearl)) - again, if you didn't have those moments, you'd be a robot. I feel similarly when I see other women that talk about their husbands, and pat them on the back, and just smile at them.

[pearlharbr]

Thanks guys, it's just that I don't feel like I'm having blue moments, I feel like I'm back to being blue all the time. I didn't just take one step back, I'm about two months back! I don't think I've been this generally down since before freedom day. I just can't seem to shake it even now with the gorgeous weather.

Guess I'll just go back to one day at a time, that's about all I can do. It's hard right now too because my two best friends are out of town so I can't talk to them. Maybe it's time for a hit of my drug of choice...but I just don't like basketball enough to sit in the bar all day for some male attention. Once baseball season starts I'll be good to go!

[davidswife]

Then don't sit there all day - go for an hour. You can wear your fab new jeans w/purple heels! Then have some ice cream.
Then watch some trash tv.

And I don't think you're nearly where you were two months ago -- you've grown and learned so much.

Damn, I may have inspired myself to put on some fab jeans myself and mosey down to the pub.

Stacy

[FitChik]

Hey Pearl,

I've followed your thread but never posted. I can relate to feeling emotionally detached and then suddenly going back to the blues. There's nothing more frustrating than tearing up when you don't expect it, and especially when you're out trying to have a good time! It's no fun! Just wanted to let you know you're not alone. I think one day at a time is all we can do :-) Skiing is my drug right now.

[Tawnya]

Davidswife..I totally want to do something like that too..I often lament to Pearl that I hate we are not in the same town!

[pearlharbr]

davidswife - thanks for the pep talk! Turns out I had more problems loading my new mp3 player than I thought so I've been sitting here trying to get that done. I'm off to a friend's house for dinner in about an hour so no time for the sports bar today. Maybe tomorrow night!

FitChik - thanks for letting me know I'm not alone. I know others out there are in the same spot or are in worse situations so I feel bad about complaining, it just helps me to get it out. Deep breath. I wish I was skiing today! But my flaky friend who I was supposed to go with ditched me for the entire weekend. The snow is pretty bad right now from what I hear. I was just hoping to go more than twice this year. I'm heading to Vail for the end of the season party, but wasn't planning to do any skiing, just partying!

Tawnya - when are you moving out west?? Ok, I know you can't move but how about that birthday weekend in Vegas? Or somewhere Midwest Airlines flies since I have a free ticket: Nashville, Atlanta, Orlando, DC, Philly, NY, Boston...