I recently found out that STBx has been having an on-going PA (legally I can't even call it that, but morally it is), found out she took the kids on a cruise to Mexico with OM last summer and had them lie to me that they went to DisneyLand - I'm grappling with this too.
I know you know fb2, but this really is very "low". What's wrong with these people? Dear Lord!!! Very very selfish!! I cant imagine how your kids felt having to lie to you... She just got herself on my voodoo list of Xwives to suffer... K
Time, space and circumstance hasn't changed the W much so I'm just letting the legal process take its course - when there's kids and property it can take time.
Oh I know all about "lawyers, guns and money" taking a good amount of time!
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found out she took the kids on a cruise to Mexico with OM last summer and had them lie to me that they went to DisneyLand - I'm grappling with this too.
This is just so very wrong.
For me, the X having the kids involved in her affair was the thing that crossed the line and made me file for a D.
..and some people here stay thru worse. That is one thing that really get's me p.o.'d here sometimes...how some people counsel others to be a doormat...and to keep standing even when the WAS has remarried.
Oy.
It, too, amazes me how some people can do such stupid stuff and inflict so much pain on others and their kids. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I'm sorry about your financial stuff. That sucks that you are paying more for insurance, but XW will be shown the light if needed as to the deal she's getting. I hope the IRA stuff works out for you in a positive way considering the market.
Your idea of the chore cards is a good one. I may look to institute it for my D. Thanks for the idea.
I found out that after the last IRA transfer that I still owe XW $6000. I offered her $4800 which accounts for a 20% tax discount. She is confused about the tax discount and I am sure her lawyer will say that is fair.
Also, XW sent me an email last night asking to meet so as to discuss the financial of the kids extracurriculars. So we met today, and after a tiring 2 hour talk that got off topic a lot, she agreed to pay for S8's piano and any increase (about $100) to D6's violin.
Well for what it is worth, at least the two hours resulted in her agreeing to pay...
I am curious to know what the off topic converstaions were about....2 hrs. seems liek a long time. Again it is just curiosity because my conversations last 2 minutes!
...I"m more curious to see what will happen to Kerry's XW when sugar daddy has a stroke or MI.
Oops.
Sorry.....couldn't let that one go.
Ignore the above. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I think she tried to guilt me at various times. For instance, she said that if only I had waited 3 more days before meeting my GF that she would have come back. She tried to re-write history. I had given up on wanting her coming back several months before I ever met GF. She said that I probably hate her to which I replied that I and quite a few others do indeed hate her. She has made the kids lives and mine much more difficult with her selfishness.
Another thing she tried blaming me for was that S8 had told his friday daycare teacher that asian women are difficult as wives. The teacher pointed that she (India) was happily married for 20+ years and that his dad (me) had a very nice GF that was asian. I think the boy came up with his own opinion or someone else mentioned it to him. I defended myself and said that I dont classify any group as being difficult in a marriage, but that only XW was personally difficult and lacked her own moral qualities.
She told me that several times over the last year that she thought of just letting me have the kids full time and having herself leave (go back to Thailand?).
It was so very difficult to convince her to help me out some financially. She currently has the big payout from the division of assets and spousal support in her checking. I told her that if it was me that it would be in a CD and some safe mutual funds backed by bonds that pay out income.
FIB - I dont quite understand the relationship with sugar daddy (Ed). I asked her why she does not consult with him regarding taxes, setting up a computer or investing - why does she ask me these things? She replied that she wants to do things independently on her own. I think she has herself trapped in a relationship with him just to have a roof over her head, but I dont really care to know what goes on in her head anymore.
I sat with her and Ed last night at the kids spring musical concerts. Ed and I dont exchange many words. My dad and step mom were there behind us and got to see Ed's shiney bald head with age spots for the first time. They noticed that he dresses in a way that is much younger than his actual age (68).
If Ed has a stroke, heart attack or other health problem, she will be up a creek and I think she would probably escape back to Thailand.
"If you had only waited 3 days before meeting your GF she would have come back? ", yeah, right... Pretty pathetic if you ask me.
I am glad she agreed to pay part of the costs. And maybe she wants Ed to marry her before he dies and then she can remarry you. Isnt that what she said ages ago? xx K
