I felt somewhat guilty for sounding like all younger workers are like this...some are not, but where I work, most are.
I thought I better add that I work mostly with women..of all ages. And I've found that its somewhat akin to working in a snakepit. LOL Regardless of age, people can be gossipmongers.
I work with women 10-20 years older than me too, and you know...they can behave just like they were back in junior high! I learned early on to keep my business, my business. ( My separation and divorce happened after I had just started this job. ) If someone asks too private of a question, I play mute. If someone plays up to me (brown-nosing) I recognize it right away and ignore it. If someone acts like they're the only one you can trust with your thoughts..you know right away they are the last person you want to share anything with.
Plus some of the more elder crowd complains just as much and just as loud as the younger crowd.
Actually, I get a kick out of all these personalities because I know they can't get to me unless I let them..and I'll be darned if I'm going to let them get that far under my skin.
I hope BND that all of us will feel like we no longer have to defend anything in our lives. I believe we all know that the final judgement is what matters the most...not the judgement that people are so quick to pass on us in the here and now.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
Hey BND, Hang in there. You can do it. I am also finding that the motto "my response is my responsibility" helps to keep me in check. I am far from perfect. This just is a good reminder for me to try to avoid reacting to people's bad and inappropriate behavior.
BND, I hear ya on the nonsense that goes on in the workplace. I hate all the gossip and attitude and all. It can get to you after awhile. We are only human, after all.
I have faith that you will figure out how to handle it moving forward. You are an amazing person with wonderful insight into yourself and others.
Or you could just tell them to shut up or stuff it - LOL!
Heading over to the unemployment office, but doubt I will qualify as I quit and didn't get fired.
This morning, well about an hour ago, there was a knock on my door.
One of the kids from the place I was working came to tell me that he was sorry that I was gone and that I have now been blamed for everything that goes wrong over there, even though I have been gone for over a month now.
It is not my fault if they are having issues with customers not getting their "regular" stuff that I used to make them.
It is not my fault if these people can not accept responsibilty for their own problems.
It is not my fault that these young girls love the drama and chaos of their lives and refuse to move on and leave me the hell alone.
I told him nicely not to worry about me and that I really don't want to know anything that happens over there, as it just upsets me.
Inside I am furious but I won't do anything or say anything. There is no freaking point.
It just frustrates me, and it angers me.
GRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
It's always easier to blame the person who has left for the chaos that arises after the employee leaves. No one wants to be held accountable for their screw ups. It's a natural thing these days to blame the other person.
Now, we can look at it another way....you could be flattered that the customers are raising cain about the fact that you are not there making their "regular" stuff.
Take a nice long walk and release this pent up anger for it will do you no good while searching for a new position. Consider the source and let it go.
Good luck on the job search!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hey BND, Unfortunately, this is how it almost ALWAYS goes! Don't give it another thought - just look at this as further proof, you were right to get out of that nut house! You don't deserve the grief - and they don't deserve YOU.
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Hey BND, it is a compliment that customers are complaining. Move forward and away from that job. I think everything happens for a reason and there are bigger and better opportunities for you in the future.
In the meantime, do something just for you to relieve the stress and anger.
